grizoog29 Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for almost four year now. He's actually the reason I registered here. The problem I'm having is that lately I have been suspecting he may be cheating on me and I don't know if I have enough to back up that suspicion. I have carefully been considering breaking up with him because of this but I don't know if I am exaggerating. The only sign of another girl that I have seen is that he keeps talking with some girl on his cell phone. I don't know whether to beleive him or not because he sometimes lies about talking to her. I just don't want to be the stupid girl who was cheated on for two years before she finally chose to end it. Any thoughts?
witabix Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 A little more info on why you are suspicious, but if he is lying he is probably trying to hide something. What that is is impossible to tell from this perspective.
Author grizoog29 Posted January 21, 2006 Author Posted January 21, 2006 The first time I knew about this girl, it was through a message that she left him. First she called and said her car door was frozen and needed somebody to help her open it. I was ok with this even though it surprised me that some girl would call a guy that she barely know, if she barely knows him as my boyfriend says, and ask for help before 8 in the morning. The second message I heard from her she was telling him that she was not going to work that day, they work together, and that she was going to be all by herself, would maybe catch a movie and go to dinner, ALL BY HERSELF, hint maybe? She also said in that same message,"and don't think that I went without you last night because I didn't even go either." So it seemed to me that they had plans on going somewhere together but I just don't know.
witabix Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Ah ok. That doesn't good to me either. I think you need to talk to your bf and see what he says, how he reacts, but don't bombard him, or accuse him of anything. If he gets defensive you will have a harder job finding out what is going on. Her actions sound odd to me. Switch your radar onto full power and watch. 3
Nikita20 Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Grizoog: Someone told me that you should always listen to your little voice. Often we ignore it because usually it is something we don't want to hear. Later, the events unfold and truth reveals itself. We then reflect and say to ourselves, "If I had only listened to my little voice.". I'm not sure if this guy has cheated on you. You don't have solid proof of that. But, the phone messages you have heard are a clear indication that he is somehow involved with this other person. By the way, why are you listening to these messages? What prompted you to do this? It is because your little voice is telling you that something is not right in your relationship. I think the writing is on the wall and you need to act immediately. Dump this guy. It will save you a lot of pain and frustration in the long run.
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