Super89Rex Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Hey all, I have recently just started talking to a girl on MSN. We have talked for a few days then I asked for her phone number. Last night I called her up and she invited me out with her and her 2 other girl friends. It was alright, I met them at a restaraunt and we hung out for a few hours. NOW, I don't want to appear needy or anything; how long should I wait to call now; should I wait until she comes on MSN again and talk to her or call her in a few days, I really want to ask her out next week. Thanks
gfto Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 I'd call Wednesday and make a date for the following Sunday for coffee at Starbucks. You have to go on a real date with her, alone, in order to gauge her interest in you. It was a mistake to: (1) accept her invitation for the "group date," (2) on the same night that you called her! You should have said, "that sounds like fun, but I can't make it tonight; let's meet at Starbucks for coffee on Sunday afternoon." Accepting her invitation to meet her out with her friends (on the same night no less) makes you look like you have no life and you're desperate for a date. I'm not saying she isn't interested in you, but you better run a tighter ship from this point forward. Additionally, I'd suggest that you stay off the chat with her. It's anti-challenge.
Author Super89Rex Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 Damnit, you're completely right! what was I thinking.. I need to play this one out a little more aloof.. I didnt even think it was like that, BUT they did ask me to come along for a car ride afterwards; I declined saying I had a bunch of things I needed to do that night, so hopefully that countered seeming needy
Jtizzle Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 whats wit all the games here? it doesnt matter if u call five minutes after the date or five days..waiting around like that makes girls lose interest...its not necessarily desperate if u call and ask for a date the next day, it shows interest..keep playing around and doing the call in so and so days and then ull be writing another thread on how she got away.
gfto Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 whats wit all the games here? it doesnt matter if u call five minutes after the date or five days..waiting around like that makes girls lose interest...its not necessarily desperate if u call and ask for a date the next day, it shows interest..keep playing around and doing the call in so and so days and then ull be writing another thread on how she got away. to the contrary, waiting several days RAISES her interest level, because you're being a challenge. Call her the next day, and she's going to think you haven't had a date in two years. More importantly, waiting a few days to call will help weed out strokers, professional daters, and other assorted time-wasters. It's particularly important in this scenario. I've seen women do this many times. She'll invite a guy to come out and meet up with her and her friends that night, and then practically ignore him when he shows up, because she wasn't that interested in him to begin with, and she just wanted to see if she could get him to show up. I don't think that's the case here, but we really don't know how interested she is in him. That's why you wait until Wednesday and make the Starbucks date for Sunday. If she responds with an enthusiastic "sure," then she's probably interested enough for things to go somewhere.
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