Barby Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Okay so please help me real quick. My older sister (luv her to pieces) has been out of the dating scene quite awhile and she just recently started dating again....basically on "IM" this is the advice she asked me for and since I'm been in a LTR for a very long time I basically don't know how to advise her.... what I wanna know is how do I know he's really interested? He won't come out and say it, but his actions say he is, but his words aren't as " " I can't think of a good word for it, what can I do to find out if he's really interested? or do I just leave things the way they are and go with the flow? he keeps asking me out, so there has to be something there! I love her to pieces and don't want to see her hurt so "WHAT DO I TELL HER"?!?!? Please help?!?!
tanbark813 Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Actions speak louder than words. If he's showing he's interested, then he's interested. She should only be worried if he says he's interested but never does anything to show it.
slubberdegullion Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Actions always speak louder than words. He's not going to magically become one of those on-his-knees-professing-his-eternal-love types, so she may as well get used to the idea. Besides, if he said all the right things but his actions didn't match his words, that's more of a worry. Sounds like your sister's a very lucky girl. Yes, really.
alphamale Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 one listens to words and one observes actions. if the two don't co-relate then there is a problem. 1
slubberdegullion Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Tan, we're almost word for word here. That's scary...
Author Barby Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 Thanks guys for responding so quickly. I felt the same but wasn't sure if it was "hoping" or gut feeling... ya know what i mean! I think his actions show major interest. He has been asking her out since October. They began as friends (online, ect) but have moved to dating and have been out a few times. Once again I'll pass the advise onto her...actually she'll be reading it, I've sent the link to her! (her name is Sabrina if u prefer to address her straight on).
tanbark813 Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Tan, we're almost word for word here. That's scary... I noticed that.
Sabrina Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Thanks for posting this for me Barby! You're da bestest lil sister ever! And thanks for the input guys! Being new to this whole dating thing again, I wasn't sure what to think, and I definately don't wanna go asking stupid questions and end up pushing him away cuz I'm trying to figure it all out! I was definately thinking the same thing you guys were because his words do match his actions just not as strongly, in words he likes to pretend he's a tough bad ass, but he's really not! And when we are face to face, he just blows me away, his actions speak so highly for him. Don't get me wrong he's still your typical guy, but he's definately one of the most amazing guys I've ever met and had the pleasure of spending time with! Thanks again for all of the advice! Ya'll rawk!
Author Barby Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 Hey Brina! Glad to see u on here! Hopefully more people will respond but if not then at least you did get some imput. I told ya he likes ya!
witabix Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 one listens to words and one observes actions. if the two don't co-relate then there is a problem. Echo, echo, echo. This is right on the mark. Four people agree! Wonders will never cease. 1
quankanne Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 his actions will speak much louder than any words. Kinda hard to disguise your actions, or not use them properly ~ words sometimes just can't cut it. If he's been showing interest these past few months, he's definitely into you no matter what comes out of his mouth! anyhow, best of luck to you Sabrina (what a gorgeous name!) and welcome to da 'Shack!
Sabrina Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Aww thanks sooo much for great welcome and for the compliment!! And Barby, you silly goober, I know whatcha said but you're my sister so you're impartial, but thanks sooo much for your advice and for posting it here to see what everyone else thought too!
whichwayisup Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Hey Sabrina, welcome to LS! And hey to you Barby! I agree with the others, definately look for action, listen to his words. I also have to say, when you see him face to face, your gut instinct will tell ya too. I'm sure you can read his body language, how close he stands to you, looks at you and ofcourse if he touches you. Good luck and Keep posting!
Sabrina Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Cead mile failte! Sabrina. Thank you soooo much!!
Sabrina Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Hey Sabrina, welcome to LS! And hey to you Barby! I agree with the others, definately look for action, listen to his words. I also have to say, when you see him face to face, your gut instinct will tell ya too. I'm sure you can read his body language, how close he stands to you, looks at you and ofcourse if he touches you. Good luck and Keep posting! Thank you for the welcome! I'm gonna see him tonite after he gets off of work! But his body language and actions definately say he's into me! The way he touches my face, and plays with my hair and the way he kisses me and his body is always turned inward toward me, so that's all good! I'm going to go tonite with a new look on things and a bit more confidence, and see what my gut tells me, cuz as crazy as that sounds my gut has never been wrong!! I'll definately keep you posted!! Thanks again to everyone for their input!! Barby was sooooo right, you guys really are awesome!! I'm sooooo glad she urged me to join!!
Sabrina Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Just a quick update while I have a few minutes! I went out last night and we were talking about all kinds of stuff, and something was said about me being shy around him, and I told basically, I'm shy around him because I was unsure if he really liked me or not! I sooooooo wasn't gonna go there but I did! But I honestly did not expect a real reply! And he smiled and looked me in the eyes and said if I didn't like you I never would have asked you out for a second, let alone a third date in less than a week and then he kissed me! Oh yeah, he likes me! lmfao! 1
slubberdegullion Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 See? Congratulations! now jump his bones
witabix Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 See? Congratulations! now jump his bones NO! Book the church, and the get a dress, make him buy you a ring and a house.... OOOPS! Sarcasm got the better of me. Congrats Sabrina, result, excellent. Now relax and have some fun getting to know each other, or alternativley jump his bones. Lol.
whichwayisup Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Just a quick update while I have a few minutes! I went out last night and we were talking about all kinds of stuff, and something was said about me being shy around him, and I told basically, I'm shy around him because I was unsure if he really liked me or not! I sooooooo wasn't gonna go there but I did! But I honestly did not expect a real reply! And he smiled and looked me in the eyes and said if I didn't like you I never would have asked you out for a second, let alone a third date in less than a week and then he kissed me! Oh yeah, he likes me! lmfao! That's great! The getting to know you stage is great! Enjoy eachother and just have fun! Everything else will fall into place as time goes on.
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