Roarz Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 I only ask this because I have been doing some thinking about me and mine's most recent "encounter". It seemed like she couldn't help slipping in that she had a new bf, like it made her better than me or she enjoyed trying to make me feel bad. She's done other ego boosting type things like this and she seemed to get more forceful with them the more I pulled away and came around to her bs, as if I was the only audience she could play this out to. She has (or seems to have) a million friends and is always doing something with them, and of course the new bf. Someone told me though she still is probably not happy with herself on the inside and just puts on an act and just jumped into the new relationship (it has been a month and a half since our breakup, not sure if that classifies as "jumping in" or rebound) in order to fill a hole within herself and she'll never be happy until she's happy with herself. Kind of makes some things make sense, like a week after we broke up, she invited like 20 different people to go with her to a concert and I was the only person that actually showed up, she went on this big thing "Oh nobody likes me, boo hoo" thing, which of course I cheered her up about (Stupidly thought being nice would bring someone back). So am I crazy for thinking that she really is confused and unhappy with herself, or just jealous of her "social status"? Also, it would be interesting to hear some other stories of ex's that you felt haven't had it all together themselves.
CaliGuy Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 She's insecure, pretty common for that age, bro. Find someone with a better head on her shoulders, there are plenty out there and you're still young, so you have a lot of time. As for my ex in relation to your question, yes, she's completely bonkers. haha.
In Sync Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Yes, it's not so much as crazy, but underneathe these type (my ex was big on making subtle comparisons of other women in regards to me, or dropping hints how women found him attractive among a multitude or other seeds to invoke insecurity) On hindsight I see that he was miserable underneathe and in order to get a thrill if he made me feel bad, he would feel on top...naturally they jump to a new relationship to boost their egos because eventually there is only so much of this manipulation we'll take and they fear us seeing the truth about them, that they are totally fronting and hiding behind the own insecurity.
Geoffrey Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 has more baggage than a Greyhound bus terminal.
crazy_grl Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Roarz, your ex does sound pretty insecure to me. Hopefully, for her sake, she'll grow out of it, but you're better off finding a new girl. As for exs who were "crazy in the head", well... my ex was all over the place. I can't even begin to figure him out, and I don't want to try. He broke up with me, moved away, didn't call me for 3 months. Finally called, then wanted to get back together. I didn't want to because I realized the relationship was unhealthy. For 2 years he still kept trying with all kinds of games and ploys (guilts trips, sending gifts after I asked him not to, making up girls he was seeing, etc.). Finally I had to tell him we couldn't talk anymore because it wasn't doing either of us any good. And the guy I was seeing most recently has some major codependency things going on with his alcoholic and recently violent (toward him) ex, and still hasn't gotten over a girl that broke up with him a year ago and another he broke up with a couple years ago. I feel bad for him, because he actually thinks he's over them when a lot of things about those relationships still clearly bother him. I'd really like to help him, but I got burned when I tried, so I'm not about to try again... Of course, I got involved with them, so maybe I'm a little crazy in the head too.
slubberdegullion Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 When my ex erupted into a Niagara of tears because she couldn't get the pesto the right thickness, then cried, "Oh, I just wanna be put away so I wouldn't have to worry about anything anymore!!," that was a pretty good clue. I wish it weren't true, but it is
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