Woggle Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 I ask this question because I have a friend who had his wife walk out on him and the kids to find herself. Well she comes back after 3 years and wants to get the kids back. Instead of this happening the judge grants him ful custody and makes her pay child support. She is livid and feels like an injustice was commited against her. Do you agree with her or do you feel she should be paying support?
a4a Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 It is a two way street..a parent should pay regardless of sex... however I don't think all parents get a fair shake in the court system. I have seen several men just taken to the cleaners and have their kids stolen/hidden by the other parent. So sad! So cruel! a4a- where is my coffee?
Author Woggle Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 It is a two way street..a parent should pay regardless of sex... however I don't think all parents get a fair shake in the court system. I have seen several men just taken to the cleaners and have their kids stolen/hidden by the other parent. So sad! So cruel! a4a- where is my coffee? I truly truly despise women who use children as a weapon. They are some of the lowest scum on earth. 1
slubberdegullion Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Recently there was a Supreme Court decision in Canada that stated that parents who have their kids only part-time still have to provide full support, so I imagine that this ruling would apply to this woman as well. Seems to me like the judge made a good decision.
littlekitty Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Abolsutely they should pay child support!! 100%!! Regardless of gender the non custodian in the relationship (father or mother) should be paying towards the support of their children! It's fecking obsence, quite frankly, to suggest that because she's the Mother/Woman that she shouldn't have to!!! If you don't like equality go live in the dark ages! I truly truly despise women who use children as a weapon. They are some of the lowest scum on earth. Damn right Woogle. Seeing it in action in real life is haunting. Makes you question that persons sanity.
bluechocolate Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Should non custodial mothers pay child support? Yes, of course they should.
Author Woggle Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 These parents who use their children as a weapon will get a rude awakening when the child gets older and finds out the truth. They will then wonder why their own child hates them.
Mz. Pixie Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Yes, they should pay- according to their income level. 1
hotgurl Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 She should 100% pay child support and the judge made a good decision. If she was unstable enough to just leave 3 years ago what makes her a stable mother now.
littlekitty Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 These parents who use their children as a weapon will get a rude awakening when the child gets older and finds out the truth. They will then wonder why their own child hates them. Never a truer word spoken! They will see the behaviour and judge for themselves in time.
lilmoma1973 Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 She should 100% pay child support and the judge made a good decision. If she was unstable enough to just leave 3 years ago what makes her a stable mother now. Exactly the dad raised them for three years while she abandoned them ..The dad deserves full custody and think she should pay child support!!
Art_Critic Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 She should pay support.. The fact that she is female doesn't get her a free ride on your financial responsibilities. She is looking for a free ride.. If she has won custody from him she would expect him to pay
Guest Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 I am the custodial stepmom of two great kids 14 & 12. Their mother makes $25000 a year, hubby makes $60000 a year and I stay home. We also have a 9 year old. She pays nothing. Does anyone know of a similar situation where they went to court and the mom had to pay??
Guest Posted February 9, 2006 Posted February 9, 2006 I am in the same situation as your stepchildren's mother. I make very little and have a crazy amount in child support to pay every month. Somewhere near 40% of my gross income monthly. Not only do I have to maintain a home for my three daughters for visitations, a dependable car to drive the 80 miles to pick them up, I also have student loan payments for student loans that were incurred while he and I were married (student loans that paid for child care while I attened classes). So now I am stuck. Do I get a second job that would cut into the time I have with my daughters? But if I did that he would take me back to court and demand more money because my income went up. I didn't ask for anything when we divorced...not part of the retirement...I tried to keep everything amicable for the sake of our raising three girls cooperatively. I ask the question....what is in the best interest of the children in that case? Is it the money (yes, I have always been financially responsible toward my children) or is it the actual relationship a parent has with their children? I have never shirked financial responsiblity for my daughters, but something has got to give. He is military and if he didn't have custody of our girls he would not be getting an extra $700/ month in dependent pay... does it ever stop? Sorry....had to vent a little and maybe help you (and me) understand a little more about the whole situation. But yes, your husband can take his ex back to court and set a child support payment. If she doesn't comply he can hold her in contempt of court and put her in jail until it is paid.
big_girls_rock Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 I agree that she should pay child support for her actions and I don't think she should get the kids back because its not about "her" its about them and it should have been about them from the beginning. My Mom is being treated unfairly in her situation. My little half brother lives with his dad but my Mom is paying child support. His dad is a lieing, caniveing wanna-be pimp. He uses women to feel sorry for him and he is a womanizer which my Mom fell for 10 yrs. ago therefore having my little bro. My Mom went through a time when she couldn't afford to keep my little brother so she let his dad take him for a little while when we went through our rough time. We stayed in homeless shelters and things until she got back on her feet and she thought it would be better for my bro to stay with his dad for the time being. They went to court and after being lied on to the court on numerous false accounts she lost custody of my lil bro to his dad and step mom who his dad eventually left and was cheating on ever since. My Mom is still paying a HUGE amount of money and my lil bro isnt getting any of it. The money is being spent on the wanna-be pimps clothes, cars, house and hoes. Lol! and my lil bro was sent to school with no lunch money and sent to my Mom's with uncut hair and raggedy shoes and uniforms. My Mom took pictures of the evidence for future refference. Now not to mention the hoes he cheats on his dad also has 4 other children by four different woman one a child that was born and conceived while he was married! Why the heck is this guy getting away with all of this? My Mom got fed up one day and knocked my bros dad upside the head with a hammer and had to spend the night in jail so that didnt make anything better because though she has visitations he is now taking a new location job offer ( where they both work ) and he is taking my lil bro to live with him in another state though my bro badly wants to stay with my Mother. His dad dosn't care about him at all and often uses him to lure in "babysitters" and then use them and knock them up. My Mom is an emerging artist and is starting to become an favorite and important figure in the art world so money is looking up for her but she still misses my lil bro badly and since Im moved out shes all alone. She feels she will get my bro back though soon. Hopefully it will all work out. I hate situations like this.
tinktronik Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 I am a non-custodial mother and yes, ofcourse I pay support . Why wouldn't I? However , I do not pay support when the kids are with me .Me and the ex had a special situation where he made much more money than I , and as he's military the military takes care of all the kids basics except food and clothing. So I don't need to send anything to feed or clothe the kids when they are with me. But , yes ofcourse moms should pay too!
whichwayisup Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 I ask this question because I have a friend who had his wife walk out on him and the kids to find herself. Well she comes back after 3 years and wants to get the kids back. Instead of this happening the judge grants him ful custody and makes her pay child support. She is livid and feels like an injustice was commited against her. Do you agree with her or do you feel she should be paying support? Ofcourse! She has responsibilities to her children, finding herself or not, you don't take off and leave your children! She hasn't a CLUE what damage she's caused emotionally for her own children! Those issues probably won't show up till later in life, but it's there, inside each of the kids. She should pay whatever the court decides for her to pay. And good that he got the children!
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