scobro Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 This is such a perfect example of someone whose whole self worth is based on what other people think of you.You need someone else to make you feel happy and alive which is real sad.If you are not happy with yourself how can you possibly be able to be with someone in a lasting relationship.Drinking is just to mask inner pain you feel.It seems like you are very clingy to relationships and get addicted to you partner to feed your needs and ego whatever they are.When they(relationship partner) are gone you are now without that addiction and go through your withdrawal to the relationship and cover the pain by drinking.Suicide isn't the answer have some self pride and worth and be aware you don't need someone else to make you happy.
Author caring guy Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 Scobro What you say is all right, i know this, trouble is that i have to overcome it somehow! It's a personality disorder a codependent thing. Maybe the CBT i will soon have will work for me. The thing is, is that i do have confidence to ask girls out & am funny, good company & then if anything comes of it & a relationship starts, it can go on healthy. I'm loving, caring, there for them & funloving good company. Confident in the workplace too. So it can work, it's just when it stops!! Thats my problem. It is a drug, cold turkey i'm in & it may take time to get out of my depression & lack of interest in anything. Life seems to be on hold at the moment.
UT_longhorn Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 caring guy...i hope your holding up man. how are you doing?
cygny Posted January 25, 2006 Posted January 25, 2006 Scobro What you say is all right, i know this, trouble is that i have to overcome it somehow! It's a personality disorder a codependent thing. Maybe the CBT i will soon have will work for me. The thing is, is that i do have confidence to ask girls out & am funny, good company & then if anything comes of it & a relationship starts, it can go on healthy. I'm loving, caring, there for them & funloving good company. Confident in the workplace too. So it can work, it's just when it stops!! Thats my problem. It is a drug, cold turkey i'm in & it may take time to get out of my depression & lack of interest in anything. Life seems to be on hold at the moment. This sounds so much better caring guy. It's true. you can be confident and good company. Now that you know you can do it, it's a matter of doing it more and more of the time. And not falling back into the pit. You'll need to learn how to talk to yourself when you feel like you're falling down again, to support yourself and pull back up. You can learn it, it gets easier. Please let me know how you are doing, and send me an email if you want to.
Author caring guy Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 Hi all Yes i feel i'm doing a little better, i still get down, very down infact & dwell on my past relationship messes & think of what could've been. I get anxious because of this & then drink. I'm seeing my doc tommorow & hoping to get into some help with independence, so the right way i'm going! Time is the thing & it can't be rushed, i just get emotional & look at photos etc, stupid i know, but i do it! Drinking is an issue of mine too, i rationalise better when frree of it, but my alcohol advisor says i need to cut down before i abstain Cygney, sorry i didn't get back, i will later! Cheers cg
CaliGuy Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 You should cut down before you destroy your liver and looks. Alcohol in excessive quantities will wear you down physically and mentally.
cal gal Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 Caring Guy, If lean on the AA program, it can be extremely encouraging if you are even remotely interested in staying away from the alcohol. A clear mind will help you to cope more effectively and deal with life in a positive mindset. Look up a meeting in your area, they are everywhere!
cal gal Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 CG, You MAY be able to activate your private messaging.... Try going to your profile/CP and choose edit options... Then there should be choices that refer to your messaging options. I didn't think I could PM until I saw this today... It's worth a try, good luck!
Author caring guy Posted January 27, 2006 Author Posted January 27, 2006 Why woulds i want to go to my pm messaging, you haven't sent me a pm!! I shall go to AA, but i'm so piss*ed off with women treating me bad, using me & when i get hurt they don't answer my texts & emails. I just feel so low & don't giv a fu*k, the only reliable enjoyment in my life is drink & i've been let down emotionaly by girls that "don't know where they are" & leave me stranded. I just want someone to love & be loved unconditionally! Jeez, i am so angry today, i get no responce from my texts & emails, i try & cool it down & say friends only & all the hurt i got, i get no replys. It''s a good job my psychiatrist has upped my valium intake, i need it! cg
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