Humanoidfreak Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Long story ahead Hi, I hope my question get answered cause i been confused, plus shy, plus too dahm scared to do anything. First off, let me tell you that this has been going on for 5 months straight. I am in college and I get the feeling that this woman in my class likes me or is playing games with me, but I am not sure. Here is why I think this. I really never noticed this woman until she started doing this. She looks at me when I walk into the room. There are a bunch of other guys in the class and the only one she looks at (I think) is me. She started a random conversation with me out of nowhere with me one day. She asked what class I am taking, when do I finish, how long I have been taking it. Her friends always smile at me when i am around them. Out of all the places she sits in the class, she sits two rows in front of me where I can see her everyday. She looks at me sometimes, the next day she ignores me, other days she looks at me and so on. One time she was not in class for a week and she was downstairs doing CSS (A school thing). Her teacher was my practicum teacher. I went downstairt to look for him. I was talking to him and throughout the whole time I was talking to him, she was staring at me non stop and did not look away once. Basically she was standing working on a project the entire time I was there she was not at all working on that project. I was out in the hall talking to a friend. Right in front of me is the door to go upstairs to class and right next to me is the hallway to go to class (but a longer way). Instead of taking the short way, she walks by me and decides to take the long way. I got one of my women friends to talk to her and she came back and said that it was not gonna happen. I said cool, and I left it at that and moved on. But, then we have this. I talked to her friend because I was setting her friend up with a future practicum interview becuase I know a person in her field. While I was talking to her friend, she was sitting there giving me this sheepish smile and has this day dreaming look in her eyes. I'm not sure but that is what it looks like. Recently i have been talking to her but with random convos about school. I wished her a merry christmas one day when she left early. She says: "I am coming tom, say that to me tom", while smiling at me. I make a joke, she laughs before she leaves. The next day, I see her, but she walks right near me. (not 5 feet away from me or near my buddy who I was with at the time) She walks near me to the point where I can almost smell her hair, I say "can i say merry christmas now?" She says yes with a little grin. I say it she smiles. I go in the lounge to chill with my buddy, Her and her friend walk in and start talking. All of sudden all of us are talking. Here where it gets confusing. While I am talking to her, it seems that she wants me to say stuff to her. She is smiling but i don't know if she is into me. I heard it is playing hard to get, but when this happens it seems that she does not want to do anything with me. Well here is where it gets a bit better or stranger (depending who read this), i got back from xmas break.She was not there for a week, 2nd week i found out she was in another class. One day i see her and decide to just say the hell with it and start talking to her. So i approach her and start talking. I stumble on my words a bit, say the same thing twice and somewhat say something that is not funny but she laughs anyway. But then she does a hair flip and starts smiling at me and has this coy relaxed look on her face. I realize i can't stop smiling like a buffon and we both are non stop smiling at each other. It was a crowd we were in but the whole time she was looking at me. Either that or she wanted to be nice. So like i said before, i am very confused. What do you all think about this? Is she into me? and if she is why is she doing stuff that makes me think that she does not want anything to do with me. One final thing, would be, that she is East Indian and i am Spanish. My skin is very dark so a lot of people mistake me for being East Indian. But the thing is, i have talked spanish when she is around. I have been teaching my friend spanish when she is around so i don't know if she has cuaght on or has not noticed. either way she still does these signals. So my question is, can east indian woman date spanish men? Race is not an issue to me, but i have heard the east indian culture can be very picky when it comes to whom to date. Am i wrong? So is it possible for east indian woman to date spanish men? Thank you, and I look foward to anybody's advice
witabix Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 I have no idea about East Indian women, where is the East Indies? Spain, now I know where that is, but no habla espanol, sorry. Sounds like she is interested. Or maybe she is interested within her own cultural bounds. I think you will get a better idea if you simply ask her outright. El deseo I podía ser más útil!
Author Humanoidfreak Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 Yeah but i don't know where she is. I only see her friends eveyday. I don't know them but it looks like they know who i am cause they are very nice to me.
salmagundi Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 IMO two things that are never bad signs when it comes to women 1. You say something that is not funnny and she laughs as though it were. 2. Her friends who you don't know seem to like you and talk to you. One of them is going to do something to set you two up... Be encouraged. Go for it... salmagundi
Author Humanoidfreak Posted January 21, 2006 Author Posted January 21, 2006 So when a woman likes you her friends are really nice to you? NO wonder these friends are her are always smiling at me. They are extremly nice like they known me for years. I am walking down the hall and when they see me they become nice. IS this because the friend wants to know if i like her friend or what? Are they scoping me out? Doing thier homework?
salmagundi Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Yup, when a girl likes you, and her friends think it is a good thing, they will be nice to you. THink about. They don't know you personallly and yet they act like they do around you. Its because she's talking about you to them, she's saying good things about you. She thinks you're cute, nice, smart, funny whatever. And her friends are happy about this and the way they behave towards you should be encouraging. And the way you behave towards them is important too, needless to say. Of course it works the other way. If her friends are cold to you...that doesnt bode well. But it sounds like if you play it right, you could be in with her. good luck, salmagundi
Author Humanoidfreak Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 Wow, that is very good to know.
blue16 Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 Don't worry about the her being East Indian. Although you do have a point that there can be some cultural barriers in some East Indian families, the fact that you are hispanic (or not Indian, for that matter) shouldn't come between you two. Race isn't an issue unless you make it one.
Author Humanoidfreak Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 I have no problem with race. Race does not bother me a bit. Its just that my sking is very brown and people often mistake me for being East Indian.
filarena Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 She's sent you enough signals of interest that it's worth giving it a try. No one here can give you a definitive answer as to whether it will work, but there's certainly enough encouragement being offered that it's reasonable to think you've got a good shot.
Author Humanoidfreak Posted January 24, 2006 Author Posted January 24, 2006 Yes she has indeed send a hell of a lot of signals, but being me, i am oblivious to it all. Also, that i don't pay attention to them anymore since high school. Even in high school i never knew what signals were what. Come to think of it, i may have gone my whole high school era to signals that i was oblivious too. Now that i think back there were some odd moments that i now question. Byt hey thats me, i don't consider myself a catch or anything so i just stopped trying a long time ago. So you can see why i am asking you guys about this situation of mine.
Author Humanoidfreak Posted January 26, 2006 Author Posted January 26, 2006 By the way, does it look some sort of crush thing? If it is i have no idea why she would be onto me.
salmagundi Posted January 26, 2006 Posted January 26, 2006 Hey humanoid, dont say sh*t like that. Its depressing. I mean, what do you mean you dont know why she would be into you? Are you into you? What do you think you're worth? Nothing? If so, I mean, if you take that attitude she'll pick up on it and probably start agreeing with you (yeah, why AM i into this guy.) Honestly, I dont know you or her but why wouldnt she be into. Is there nothing interesting about you? Do you possess no interesting qualities whatsoever? Do you have no interests? No skills or capacities that you are proud to have? Have you done nothing in your life? Does your mother not love you? SOrry, I dont want to sound glib or harsh. I actually want someone on this depressing site (which I love nonetheless) to actually SUCCEED in love. Might as well be you. So lets go... First, if you think you're worthless, stay at home, dont ask anymore women out and go be a monk and live in a sheepskin tent in the desert and go find god because nobody else will love you or be interested in you until you do it first. If you rethink and decide "Ok, so maybe I'm not a complete waste of skin" then you're on your way. Go have conversations with this woman. Get interested in her. Let her talk about herself. If shes interested in you she'll want to know about you too. If this goes well the moment to ask her out on a date is always obvious. You cant miss it. If you do anyway and she's REALLY into you she'll ask YOU out. Then tell us what happened because people like me have nothing better to do than live vicariously through message boards while their own lovelives go to sh*t (I dont often come to this forum, I'm a native of the breaking up forum.) No more downer talk. Remember: You're good enough, you're smart enough...and gosh darnit people like you... But seriously, my ex is easily the most beautiful woman in a hundred miles and me...i dunno, I'm not so bright, cant do anything useful and arnt much to look at and she fell in love with me (once upon a time). For no reason I can see... anyway, good luck salmagundi p.s. Confidence man! COnfidence! 1
Author Humanoidfreak Posted January 27, 2006 Author Posted January 27, 2006 Well i am a fun loving guy. I love to make people laugh and have a good time. I have a good personality. My life is pretty good, i like how it is but it is a mind bender trying to figure it out. Cause, if a woman likes you doesn't she touch you. She has not yet done this which makes me wonder ok, is this something? But one thing for sure, is that i am fun to be around with. I treat my friend good and i like to help my family out.
Author Humanoidfreak Posted February 1, 2006 Author Posted February 1, 2006 Oh i have a question for the women on here. Do looks matter for you> What do you look for? Do you want a guy with a great sense of humor? I just want to know this. Thanks
Recommended Posts