Brittanyjean06 Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Most of you know my story- was with someone since I was 14, now i am almost 18 and currently going on the 6 months of a break up---- i have gotten all the advice- and i know time will help... but what i do want to know is...how many of you had to struggle with your first loves at a young age???...how devastated were you?? and how did you pull through?? :-p
slubberdegullion Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 I remember it well. It tore me up, and I was the dumper. I went into a funk - not a clinical depression, but a self-imposed exile - for nearly a year. But, soon enough, the sun came out and the birds sang... so I put on sunglasses and blasted the little chirpers out of the sky with a 12-gauge. It was very theraputic. BuT i'M mUcH bEtTeR nOw! *twitch twitch*
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 Good i want to here all those positive stories of getting over your first love...i know one day i will but keep going! haha
Citizen Erased Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Yeah, I was the dumper as well, and man I felt like all kinds of s*** during the breakup! I was with this guy B for 2 years and then I realised the Relationship was going nowhere and that I needed to break it off. It is so hard to let go of your first love (not to mention the first guy I slept with!) but in the end sometimes it has to be done. Im now with an absolutely fabulous guy who im moving in with and I couldnt be happier. You will get through this!!
slubberdegullion Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Yea, Coco and I are gonna shack up! Coco, don't forget the box marked "books." It's actually got our, uh, toys inside. Oh, and remember to get batteries!
brooke7777 Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 You know my story about my first love...we were in high school and were together for 2 years and I was devastated when we broke up even though I knew he wasn't "the one." But you know what really helped me get through it...totally forgetting about boys and just hanging out with the girls. Of course I was in a good situation, at that time I was the only one who had a boyfriend. So it worked out well. Then college came around and I was ready to start putting myself out there. But I guess I feel like I'm in the same position as you. My current ex was my first "true love" and I sincerley thought and guess I still think is "the one." I'm still struggling so much with this one. Now my situation is reversed. All of my girlfriends are in serious relationships and honestly most of them are too involved in their own lives to give two sh*ts about me. So it's been real tough. I too want to know, how do we pull through this tough time? How do I get my life back to a sense of normalcy? How do I go on without him playing a part in the rest of my life?
chocolate_boy Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Most of you know my story- was with someone since I was 14, now i am almost 18 and currently going on the 6 months of a break up---- i have gotten all the advice- and i know time will help... but what i do want to know is...how many of you had to struggle with your first loves at a young age???...how devastated were you?? and how did you pull through?? :-p Well it wasn't my first love that was the hardest to get over (sorry Brit ) she took about 7 months to get over, however the girl I got engaged to took a few years (and I ended it!) and I still feel something for her, and think I always will, but she's the only one. I'm already over my ex who I split with 4 months ago. I think it's more your most serious love that hurts the most, sure your first is odd cos you have never felt like this before, but it doesn't get any easier I'm afraid hun.
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 Than who is our one and only?? who do we get married to, what if we get our hearts broken at like 30?? do we keep getting hurt until we meet the realll one! brook you say it feels like your real one, maybe there will be a real one eventually? try to make new friends to...even though thats hard wow i haven't seen nothing yet....ah
apathygrip1234 Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 sigh....ya me and my first love of 3 years broke up 2.5 months ago......but Im like 85% rite now
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 21, 2006 Author Posted January 21, 2006 85% good, how is that possible???....im at 5 months and im like 10%....??...
AltplanB Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 My first love was my current ex gf who broke up with me about 3 ½ months ago and has been in a relationship since that. It has been the hardest thing I have ever been through and what makes it worse is that I realize that I have been on the other end of the stick in the past. I have been the one doing this to women and I feel terrible for doing it. I was with this girl for a year and right now she is stringing me along because I let her and I take every little morsel I can get in order to see if I could path things up. It doesn’t work though and I am not very able to play the game. What makes it so hard is that I still love her and she says she still has feelings for me, but that she likes dating right now and she doesn’t want to hurt me again. But I let this **** happen to me, which makes me feel worse
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 21, 2006 Author Posted January 21, 2006 yeah tables do tend to turn alot. "people who have gotten over their first loves"... sorry your going through a difficult time, i am to! but it does get better- im reading alot of self improvement books, that make me realise sooo much...i gotta make myself happy now, and you do to
fomerlyniceguy Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Than who is our one and only?? who do we get married to, what if we get our hearts broken at like 30?? do we keep getting hurt until we meet the realll one! That is a question you will probably ask yourself many times over your life. Sorry to quote a song, but life has a funny way of sneaking up on you. I am 32 and a few months ago I was married(technically still am but you can't tell that by talking to my wife). We had a few problems, nothing too serious I thought, one day a few months ago she says she doesn't love me, not sure if she ever did and that she wants a divorce. I was under the impression that no matter how bad it got we would always try and work it out. Well she decided to bail. Now what does that mean to me, well I guess having gone though this a couple of times I realize life hasn't ended. I don't get to see my stepson as often as I like(I got to see him for the first time in two months on Friday, so I was happy). In a way it is making me stronger and wiser. Sure it hurts now but it won't be forever. I certainly don't have any answers on how you know the one is the REAL one, but you have to keep looking. One last thing I have learned is Marriage is not your stopping place in life, many believe after that then your life is set. It is in truth just another beggining, another chapter of your life you write with another person. With any luck you get to finish the book with that same person. fng
Delicaterose00 Posted January 23, 2006 Posted January 23, 2006 Brit, hun, did you get that " its called a break-up because its broken"? Tell me you did! lol
Apathygrip Posted January 24, 2006 Posted January 24, 2006 hahah I'm just realistic, we broke up but life moves on and I knew I would meet new interesting people. I was really bad for like 3 weaks and just got better and better. The only reason I don't say I'm 100% is cause I'm sure there is some deep emotional damage still in me. I rarely see her(after we broke up I found this place a week later and was advised to NC and havnt looked back since). Attention from the oppisite sex is always good too, not any kind of serious thinking just flirting and good conversation. It really made me realize that there are tons of people out there who would be willing to spend life with you....you just got to go get em!
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted January 25, 2006 Author Posted January 25, 2006 No i haven't gotten the book yet!!:-( when im out at the mall, or book store i will though im sure it would help I know, life is really werid..but i guess this is the next chapter of my life- and getting through this is just the begining
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