cal gal Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Just wondering where you might be - in so cal? OC Myself... Not sure if you look younger than me or not! Need a smile on my face too - usually it's there - just not in the last few months... No sex is killing me however I won't give in until it is someone meaningful!!! so, where are you?
Author CaliGuy Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 Just wondering where you might be - in so cal? OC Myself... Not sure if you look younger than me or not! Need a smile on my face too - usually it's there - just not in the last few months... No sex is killing me however I won't give in until it is someone meaningful!!! so, where are you? I'm in your neck of the woods I agree about being meaningful. It's hard for me to boink just to boink unless there is a lot of chemistry.
cal gal Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 I think you should post a copy of the ad here and everyone can dicifer it for you - although you must have presented yourself well.....
cal gal Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 chemistry is a very good thing, and dangerous, although danger is fun so - how old did you say your are????
Author CaliGuy Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 I don't want to post the ad because I am concerned someone will copy and use it. If you have access to PM I can send it to you.
cal gal Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 not sure if I do have pm .... because I haven't posted a lot... you can try though. have you ever been married, and where are you in so cal? I am in the most southern of so cal, right before you reach the san diego line, good beach area is what we call it (and the best weather too)! gotta love life!
Author CaliGuy Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 Oceanside or San Clemente? I'm right where the 5 and 405 meet. I can post my email addy but I have to delete it right after.
cal gal Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 sc - for most of my life. love it here. are you older than 35?
Author CaliGuy Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 sc - for most of my life. love it here. are you older than 35? Yep but not much
Becoming Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Glad to hear you're doing so well, CaliGuy! Good for you. You have a lot going for you. Don't sell it out. I've appreciated your insightful posts. (Just an old married woman being supportive here--not to worry Calgirl!). Carpe diem!
kitten chick Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 "THIS POST IS WORTHLESS WITHOUT PICS!" haha. Do you guys think that site is safe to use? I feel like I'd end up with some psycho stalker from there but maybe I'm just paranoid.
Author CaliGuy Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 Do you guys think that site is safe to use? I feel like I'd end up with some psycho stalker from there but maybe I'm just paranoid. Not sure about the men. I believe 75% of them are married looking for something on the side. So far at least with the way I wrote my ad I have been attracting the type of women I would be interested in meeting. I think it's all in how you write the ad, if you are dead honest about yourself and what you are seeking (without throwing in some absurd qualifications such as: Brad Pitt lookalike, MBA Degree, salary requirements, etc.) Funny story. Some woman posted some VERY absurd requirements in an ad. A guy went through and did the math for her. He ended up calculating that there was a .001% chance she'd find a guy that met all her qualifications. Add to the fact she admitted she didn't have much to offer and was overwight, by a large sum. I nominated his reply for the BEST OF, it was downright hilarious
kitten chick Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 I think I'm going to go with my gut on this one and steer clear. But those married guys, you don't have to go online to find them, they're everywhere.
Author CaliGuy Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 I think I'm going to go with my gut on this one and steer clear. But those married guys, you don't have to go online to find them, they're everywhere. Try it. Just post the worst picture you can find of you. That's the best way to weed out the bad guys. It's all a matter of how much work you want to put into it. If you ask the right questions you can weed them out pretty quickly and narrow it down to good guys like me hehe.
cal gal Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 I think you are better off posting a bad picture, that way people won't be dissappointed. Also, I know it is not found very often anymore but I only have friends that are honest and up front (and fun). Nobody should need to play games if they know what they want and like. Life is so much simpler that way... =)
cygny Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Try it. Just post the worst picture you can find of you. That's the best way to weed out the bad guys. It's all a matter of how much work you want to put into it. If you ask the right questions you can weed them out pretty quickly and narrow it down to good guys like me hehe. do you have a few pointers as far as questions to ask? to weed out the married guys and the players?
kitten chick Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 do you have a few pointers as far as questions to ask? to weed out the married guys and the players? It's not so easy just to tell by email but you can definitely tell when they tap dance around making a date, times, places, etc.
Author CaliGuy Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 do you have a few pointers as far as questions to ask? to weed out the married guys and the players? Easy. If they talk or ask about sex either right away or after the first date, big warning sign they aren't interested in you for you. Not all players are dumb. If they are patient they will seem like anyone else. Wouldn't it be nice if you could ask an ex for a reference? haha.
cal gal Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 The sex part is always great but is much more meaningful and fulfilling if it's with someone you are connected to mentally and emotionally - and drawn to physically! Wow - that seems like a perfect world! Hmmmmm Seems good to me.
riobikini Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 Cali, kitten chick, In regards to the 'Who lists their weight?' question... I listed mine. I felt it was appropriate and even 'wished for'. Yep! -my dating profile is up on the 'net, too! It helps me to review and keep updated on what's -or rather, who's- 'out there'. For the most part, I have to agree, it's a meat-market full of out-right liars, cheaters, and very misleading people. Still, there's the possibility of coming across that 'one' who's going to have it all together (or, at least, most of it together). So it's a crap shoot. It takes practice to be able to sort through the masses and choose someone who even sounds suitable enough to have coffee with, but sometimes it's worth it just to discover how well your radar is working. The drawbacks are there, tho. You wind up at some point, after being disappointed numerous times, feeling as if you might just be a huge magnet for all the 'wrong' members of the opposite sex. You wonder if the problem is you, -and not them. While it's probably just the simple matter of what draws you to another human being and what turns you off, it's a good exercise in exploring more fully what your real needs, likes, and dislikes are. It will help your sense of 'self' materialize to the surface so you can deal with, perhaps, any unresolved issues that may not have otherwise been challenged or even recognized, and cause a sometimes, significant evolution which can help you become a more positively-charged, well-focused individual. And that just makes you more ready for Mr. or Mrs. Right, when they finally happen to come strolling by. Depending on, of course, that you are truly looking for her/him. Hope I have said something to help someone. (Smile) Take care. -Rio
Mz. Pixie Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 That's great Cali. I'm sure a cute girl will scoop you up right away. Just as a note- my husband did a bit of internet dating before he met me- he said that he found out really quick that "voluptuous" was NOT what he was interested in. Steer clear of that!
Author CaliGuy Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 That's great Cali. I'm sure a cute girl will scoop you up right away. Just as a note- my husband did a bit of internet dating before he met me- he said that he found out really quick that "voluptuous" was NOT what he was interested in. Steer clear of that! That and BBW. Not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just not a turn on for me
cal gal Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 from a woman's perspective - I enjoy a man that is strong enough to overpower me ... physically and mentally! I am a small gal but it's nice to have something to hang on to... someone that you feel can protect you!
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