gordon_gc Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 My exgf broke up with me 2 1/2 months ago now. We kept in touch on and off. At this time, I was trying to get her back and did silly thing. Recently, i decided to go to another level of silliness and show her I was cool with the current situation and could be kind of a friend. We had healthy contacts talking about everything. About 2 weeks ago, I decided to go into strict NC and strangely, she also started NC. I knew something was happening for her to apply NC. Yesterday, one of my friend told me she is now seeing someone which now explain a lot. (the information is right!!!). I really feel disrespected and **** since when we broke up, she told me she needed independance and space. She needed to be by herself, ect... Suddenly, she finds a guy...pretty quick to get over a 1 year relationship and go back to a couple situation !!!! I feel so upset I could blow to her face but then , I know its not the right thing to do. I havent slept all night and the thought of her being with somebody else is killing me.... What should I do ??? HELP ME !!!
notmakingsense Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Funny how "needing space" and independance always seems to translate into seeing someone else. At least in my experience anyway. I've been on both sides of that statement. Why? As a dumper, it seems like a gentle way to say that you aren't interested in the relationship any longer. Also, many people (both men and women) tend to have something else lined up before they break things off. Just the s***tier side of human nature I guess -- or maybe I'm just jaded.
notmakingsense Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 Oh -- and about what to do? Follow the typical advice given here on these forums -- do not contact her and try to move on as best and as quickly as you can. Contacting her and seeing her will only make you hurt more right now.
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