Anyone ever reconnect with a love you thought was definitively over?

[BilgeD]

Hi all-

 

I recently damaged/destroyed a relationship with a woman I really love. Based on how things unfolded with this person, it feels that we may never connect again. However, I've been wondering if anyone has ever recovered a lost love that seemed to collapse before their eyes.

 

I'd like to believe in fate, and that if the love was mutual that we'll always be a part of each others lives, but I really feel like I lost this one - and it really, really hurts.

 

Sorry if I'm indulging in a lost cause. Just hearing that some may have found their way back to love from what seemed irreparable, would give me some semblance of hope - even if this is not meant to be.

[skeptik224]

It hasn't happened to me, but I know people who it has happened to. It would depend on why you broke up in the first place and where each of you were at in your lives, but is it possible? Yes.

[witabix]

Yes it does happen.

 

My gf and I recently tore it up between us.

 

At one point I said thats it, took her phone and erased my numbers from it, and told her to not contact me again.

 

We got over it. We talked. We listened. We understood.

 

We are now back together.

 

We have not forgotten the hurt we caused each other. We recognise it. We are working to heal the wounds we gave each other.

 

There was no counselors or guidance. We accept that it takes time to heal. We are giving each other that time.

 

There is no guarantee that it will work. However we both feel strongly enought to try.

 

Even in the darkest time we still respected each other to give each other the time to say what they wanted to say.

 

You know the way bad words and deeds grow as time passes, we water these words and deeds with more and bad feelings, and they flourish.

 

Well the reverse is true also. We can grow apart or we can grow together.

 

If you are going to try again you need to sit down and talk about it to her. No holding hands, or kissing, or any of that kind of stuff. No dating, or fooling around.

 

Examine what you had/have together. Think about why you want her, and ask her why she wants you. Then you will be in a better position to know what you actually share.

 

Be prepared to hear things you don't like. Keep it focussed on feelings not delusions.