Woggle Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 I only cried twice when a friend of mine was murdered and when my first marriage fell apart. I cried as a child but those were the only times as an adult when I cried.
whichwayisup Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Thanks lilM. It was sad...Rough to come home and find her gone...What made it rough for my hubby was, he felt guilty about it. We had a routine set up, I was working mid-afternoon to midnight shifts so someone was always home with her during the day/night. Just because she was weak and couldn't get around on her own...I'd feed her, give her water etc...He'd do the same at night when I was working late. That morning very early (he was on press watch at the paper) I got a phone call from security saying he'd been rushed to the hospital! I freaked cuz they told me he passed out and had pains...But didn't tell me where! Ofcourse my mind went to the worst case senario...I got my ass to the hospital so fast too. Spent most of the day there, turned out he had Kidney stones. Phew...Serious but not life threatening, just very painful. We got home and found her...So he took it really hard.
Mz. Pixie Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Yeah, Woggle, me too. My husband cries, not excessively,but we both teared up over The Notebook. I've seen other men cry in my life from time to time and I don't take it as a sign of weakness.
Ms_Sweetness Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 My first BF cired alot, mainly over me. My second BF never cried (at least not in front of me). I have only seen my dad cry once, and that was when a loved one died. Whenever I see a man that I consider "strong"(never cries) cry, it automatically makes me cry.
Outcast Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 We both cried when we came home and found my cat dead in the bathroom. She had lick marks all over her from her brother, who was meowing and upset too. God, just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes again... Awwww Poor kitty and poor you. I'm a mushball. I well up at all sorts of things, including posts on LS. I quit watching animal shows on Discovery after I saw one show about lemurs where one of the baby lemurs died and his mom sat in a tree with her head on her hands for two days mourning him. Still makes me sad to think about Which kinda wigs me out. I easily bring him to tears??? Yikes........ that is a lot of pressure on a person. Knowing that they cry because of you or your actions.... That means he cares. Do you think crying is used by men or women to get their way or get leverage in a relationship? Do you or have you done it? Some people might. I don't. If I'm teary, it's genuine. As for men crying, I remember seeing my dad cry when he heard really beautiful music. I've seen guys cry at very moving moments in movies. I think it's great - I immediately like a guy better if he's able to feel that deeply because to me it means he's not shut off from the deeper emotional experiences in life. Not only that, but there's this thing called 'attunement' which basically has to do with the bonding that occurs when two people feel the same way at the same time. So if a man is welling up at something that's doing the same to me, I feel closer to him. Having said that, welling up is one thing, but anybody who'd engage in open sobbing over lots of trivial things would likely have issues I'd not want to have to deal with, IMHO.
brashgal Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 My ex cried when our dog of just 6 months died suddenly, first time I had ever heard him cry (he called me at work and I was so busy I could not comfort him) - genuinely freaked me out. I wish I handled it better, I had never seen a man cry before - I've never seen my Dad cry and had only seen my Mom cry a couple times in her life - my take on it was grownups do not cry (or they do so privately). He also cried once when I discovered that he had been cheating on me again - I had been working really hard to be all things to him, he had celebrated a fabulous weekend due to my efforts and I found a receipt for condoms (we didn't use condoms) and on the receipt date just two weeks prior I had been out of town on business. I'm convinced now that those tears were manipulative. I have only cried manipulatively once. I was pulled over by a cop in Mexico for a minor traffic infraction. Initially I argued, he said he'd have to take me to the courthouse. He also intimated that I could pay him not to do so. I did not want to part with my vacation money so I let go the waterworks. Didn't know I had it in me!
Author a4a Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 Not only that, but there's this thing called 'attunement' which basically has to do with the bonding that occurs when two people feel the same way at the same time. . This is a very very true statement. When I worked and still have to at times in the ER you get very close to your team. However crying is not allowed. It is truly amazing that you turn into this "special" group. Outsiders that do not experience the ER work we do just are not allowed in, they just don't get it. It turns into this quiet bond between us. a4a- have you seen my marbles?
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 20, 2006 Posted January 20, 2006 We both cried when we came home and found my cat dead in the bathroom. She had lick marks all over her from her brother, who was meowing and upset too. God, just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes again... Oh no...sniffle, sniffle.....waaaaaa......this is making me cry.
Steve11894 Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 Hi everyone. I'm almost 24, and I cry easily, for some reason. Movies, certain comments made by people (Much worse by people, I don't know too well), certain thoughts, not getting my way about something big, etc. I try hard not to cry in front of people though, because it's extremely embarrassing, but sometimes emotionally, I can't help it. i don't know why, but it's been this way, since being really young.
TheSwordfish Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 I cry sometimes. Not that much though. Its not movies that make me cry or soemthing. When I lost my granfather last year, I cried a whole lot. But then again, te two of us were very close. Sometimes there are things that make me cry (especially when I feel sorry for others, silly isn't it?). A relationship going bad makes me cry as well. But... I don't cry in public. Going to my mountain hide away first But then again, it has been three months since the last tear rolled from my cheeck....
brngme2life76 Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 My fiance cries when we listen to songs that remind him of us. He cried in church the other day when we were listening to the words of a song being played and he held me close to let me know he was thinking of me. I find that when he cries he is being true to his feelings towards me, now of course he dont do it right in front of my face but he does hold me close when he is. He also says he cries when he misses his children or worries about them. He is a real man and I believe real men cry. My opinion only.
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