Do men cry?

[a4a]

Curious to know a general answer.....

How often and over what do must men cry?

Is it still considered taboo for them to do so?

 

Of course at some point they have cried but I mean as adults.

 

a4a

[basscatcher]

Curious to know a general answer.....

How often and over what do must men cry?

Is it still considered taboo for them to do so?

 

Of course at some point they have cried but I mean as adults.

 

a4a

 

I have seen all levels in men when it comes to expressing their feelings through tears.

 

I think it has a lot to do with the mans emotional stability and self-esteem.

In my early years of dating I had a few bfs that cried all the time and one cried easily about anything that didn't go his way. I felt like I was with a 2 yr old who cried to get his way. ex: gfs and I were doing cartwheels down the road and we got ahead of him and he sat in the snowbank and cried because I was walking ahead of him.

 

Others cried when it was appropriete. ex: death of someone close, we were breaking up.

 

Then a few others were hard, cold, unemotional, as well as not affectionate, or touchy-feely at all. They usually state: 'real men dont cry. real men are tough and don't express their feelings' [sounds like my dads analogy..]

 

I think its healthy for a man to cry when necessary. I think it shows if a man can cry over a really sad movie, over a death of a loved one, a break up he is a REAL MAN... REAL MEN CRY....

[lilmoma1973]

 

Yes my h rarely cries but he cried at his best friends funeral that was in a band and was a great drummer !! He fell asleep at the wheel of his little bitty car and ran into the back of a tranfer truck.. My h didn't cry at his own grandma's funeral but he did at this guy's funeral he been dead 3 yrs and still makes him sad..

[JadeStar]

My husband has cried before. He has cried when we have gotten into an arguement about something, he has cried at sappy chick movies too. I like it, theres nothing wrong with men showing their emotions. I have seen my dad cry once, I think it was when his brother passed away years ago. I have a male friend that I've seen kind of tear up before when I was upset about something.

 

 

 

 

Jade

[a4a]

wondering if any men will confess to crying with a post to this thread?

 

 

a4a

[bab]

I've seen my fiance cry a couple of times, but it's rare. I'm the cryer.

[witabix]

wondering if any men will confess to crying with a post to this thread?

 

 

a4a

 

Absolutely.

 

I cried all night when my Dad died, my brother phoned me. I was 4000 miles away. It was 2am, I got up and put on some music and cried all night. I couldn't cry at his funeral, I had raced home, sleeping in airports on the way. My face felt like a mask.

 

I cried when my Mum died, she died in the hospital and me and my brothers were there. I was the only one that cried my older brother stopped me. I cried at her funeral, my children had to hold me up.

 

I cried when my marriage split up. For months, every night when I got home from work, for months.

 

I cried when I met my kids for the first time in nearly ten years, in public, and they shielded me from the gaze of other people.

 

I cried when my current relationship was going through hell. Alone and with my gf, and as I vented on here.

 

I cry when I am in so much pain I cannot speak. I well up when I see people suffering on tv. I can cry from outrage.

 

I can cry, and I am a man.

[a4a]

see how they hide......... not one male post yet........

interesting.........

 

a4a

 

oooops wit beat me to the punch....... far out!!!

[Art_Critic]

I cry for all the bad stuff.. Death.. Divorce..

 

But never cry in front of someone and all my crying has been done while I'm alone.

 

I most certainly would not cry in front of a woman..

[slubberdegullion]

The last time I shed a tear was over a year ago when my faithful companion of almost 13 years had to be put down.

 

Previous to that, it had been almost a decade.

 

that doesn't count, of course, when I get a pubie caught in my zipper and yank it out unintentionally... those are real tears, but for a different reason

[a4a]

So crying is ok if you are alone? I prefer never to cry in front of other people.

 

a4a

[thegoodhubbie]

The last time I cried is when my brother died two years ago, before that I cannot recall the last time I cried. I think I was in my early 20s and I was finally mourning the loss of my dad when I was 12 (long story). Other than that I have only welled up on a rare occasion.

[lilmoma1973]

 

I am very tenderhearted and will cry easily ....

[Art_Critic]

So crying is ok if you are alone? I prefer never to cry in front of other people.

 

a4a

 

Of course.. I think for me if I cried in front of someone that I would feel weak.

[slubberdegullion]

So crying is ok if you are alone? I prefer never to cry in front of other people.

I can honestly say that since I attained maturity, every time I have cried in front of a woman - S/O, my mother, my sister, whatever - every single time, without exception it has come back to haunt me.

 

I may be a slow learner, but now I know what happens, so if I have the need to bawl (maybe once every couple of years) I shut myself away.

[whichwayisup]

My husband has cried afew times and infront of me. Ofcourse, when you hit someone that hard with a baseball bat, they tend to cry. Oh relax, I'm just kidding ya'll!

 

We both cried when we came home and found my cat dead in the bathroom. She had lick marks all over her from her brother, who was meowing and upset too. God, just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes again...

 

It isn't something he does very often, but I do think men crying is normal.

 

I wouldn't like it if he cried all the time though. I don't cry that often either but honestly if he cried daily it would grate on my nerves. Sorry, just being honest.

[slubberdegullion]

found my cat dead in the bathroom

Wow... one of you guys must have some really foul poops!

[Yamaha]

Certainly I cry.

 

It releaves stress and helps you to feel better. I usually don't cry in front of others but it is beneficial to cry when you feel the need.

[whichwayisup]

Wow... one of you guys must have some really foul poops!

 

Good thing enough time has passed (Sept 27, 2001) that your comment made me laugh! If you'd said that afew days/weeks afterwards I would've had to come find you and do something with my baseball bat!

 

Nah, if anything it would be his. Remember, I'm a woman and mine don't smell! :laugh: And if anybody believes that, I got some swamp land for sale!

[witabix]

Of course.. I think for me if I cried in front of someone that I would feel weak.

 

I can honestly say that since I attained maturity, every time I have cried in front of a woman - S/O, my mother, my sister, whatever - every single time, without exception it has come back to haunt me.

 

I may be a slow learner, but now I know what happens, so if I have the need to bawl (maybe once every couple of years) I shut myself away.

 

Haunt you Slub? How so?

 

In the vast tapestry that is the human 'soul' why would you want to hide that part of yourself. Crying in public because you see an injured bird may be a sign oversensitivity. How many women see crying as a weakness. How many men see crying as a weakness?

 

I only ever saw my Dad cry once, when his sister died, and we were shooed out of the room. So he could be alone. I wanted to go and hold him. To let him know his son loved him and cared for him in his pain. I wasn't allowed to, my Mother stopped me, now over thirty years later I still remember the picture of my Dad sitting alone at the end of the room, holding the letter, crying, and the afternoon summer sun silhouetting him. I never saw him cry again.

 

Some of us want to be there for others in pain. Some don't.

 

The saddest moments in my life have been spent alone, crying, no one there, no one to turn to, despairing of life and my place in it. A dreadful feeling of loneliness, as if there is no one else, no one cares.

 

I hate that feeling.

 

I don't think showing your pain is a sign of weakness. Showing weakness? Sounds like a negative? Only if you see it that way though. I would never percaive a person crying as a sign of weakness, it is sign they need someone, thats all.

[blind_otter]

I have issues with men crying. If they do it excessively I actually get physically ill. Like I had one BF that would cry whenever I did. Then I had to pull it together to comfort HIM. barf-o-rama. It's my issue, I know. I cannot comfort crying men. I don't know how. It makes me VERY uncomfortable.

 

I also prefer to be alone when I cry.

 

My father, who I love dearly beyond all comprehension, cried only at deaths in the family, and once because of me and my drug problem.

[a4a]

Crying men do not bother me, nor do I find it a sign of weakness as long as they are crying for the right reasons. If you spill your beer and have an outburst of tears..... we got a problem! If you tear up over a Barry Manillow tune......well I am outta there!

 

I do my crying behind closed doors........ rarely ever had a tear in front of any one....... Turkey-day my goat died I did cry, only H saw it briefly. Of course disposing of the body ect brought it on. I have had to really buck up over the animal death thing.....so I was shocked it happened.

 

Now H has only shed tears 4 times in his adult life..... when his father died (he found him), he did not cry at the funeral, when his mother died.... weeks later he cried briefly over her death.

 

Twice with me, over us.

 

Which kinda wigs me out. I easily bring him to tears???

Yikes........ that is a lot of pressure on a person.

Knowing that they cry because of you or your actions....

 

Do you think crying is used by men or women to get their way or get leverage in a relationship? Do you or have you done it?

 

a4a- in defrost mode

[slubberdegullion]

I easily bring him to tears???

Uh, that's because you were standing on his scrotum.

Do you think crying is used by men or women to get their way or get leverage in a relationship?

I've never heard of, or seen, a man using tears in a relationship, but I will admit that I've been on the receiving end of manipulative tears more than once. I would give in at first, until I realized that the tears were manufactured. After that, I was done. Tears now don't sway me one little bit (yea, I can be a hardass at times). If you're going to cry, do it, get it over with, then get rational and we can talk.

[witabix]

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Do you think crying is used by men or women to get their way or get leverage in a relationship? Do you or have you done it?

 

a4a- in defrost mode

 

I have seen tears used by women, I have seen emotional blackmail used by men. Even a guy who pretended to have been run over by a car! The girls Mum was a nurse at the local hospital! Odd as f***!

[Art_Critic]

Ofcourse, when you hit someone that hard with a baseball bat, they tend to cry.

 

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