HadItAll Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Hey People! Been visiting this website for a few days now and its been some great help! Thanks! Anyways My Ex and I of 7 years(on and off) had broken up(my choice) about 5 months ago. During that five months we still saw eachother, had dinners and all that good stuff. On Dec 2, 2005 I had said some mean things because I was really upset and didnt call here for about two weeks. On Dec 23, 2005 I gave here a call and dropped off all the christmas present I bought here because I was going on vacation. On vacation I was thinking about here 24/7 and bought here all these little gifts from my heart. I get back from vacation, only for her to tell me she has a new boyfriend. I know this might sound a little selfish but Im so crushed. I really wanted to be with here again and the love had never left. I know its my fault because I broke it off with here. I just needed sometime and some space. And wanted to see what the single life was all about. I wasnt trying to get with anybody, I was just trying to be free. I made a mistake and I wanted her back. But i guess its too late. All i find myself thinking about is how she used to kiss me, laugh with me etc...is now being shared with here new boyfriend and its so hard. I cant deal with it. it just hurts me too much. I really love this girl and wanted to marry this girl but sometimes I just think too much about the things she has done to me, which affect my feelings for her. In the 7 years, she has cheated on me twice, and dated 3 or 4 guys. And the whole time during this I just waited for her. I never looked for anyone or dated anyone else during the 7 years. I just waited. Btw Were both 22 and have been dating since we were 16. I just wonder if its worth "killing" myself over. Thanks for listening! Im so hurt. I cant believe she with someone else already. It hurts.
AZKHO Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 I understand the angonizing pain that comes with a breakup. I was in a four year relationship up until about 1 year ago. Before we strarted dating we were very close friends for about 2-3 years. Similar circumstances, we broke up and we were still trying to work things out, but while we were doing that, i showed up to his house to tell him Happy Thanksgiving and bam, there was another girl at the table. I was crushed, and didn't know what to do. The times in our relationship when we broke up, he saw other girls. And I never did. i waited for him. It was very hard at first. I thought about him all the time. I even tried to still have contact with him, though i knew he had a girlfriend. It only made things worse. i hate him now, he did some really screwed up things to me because he was just trying to make me disappear to make the breakup easier on him. We were only broke up a few weeks before he had another girl. He is still with the girl, who is ignorant, and he deserves way better, she has no job, no education and lives off of her parents, now off of my ex. To this day,i think about him sometimes and when i see him it hurts a little, but the pain isn't as bad and my mind easily strays from that subject when i get on it. Also there are plenty of other people out there for you. It really isn't the end of the world. Take that advice from someone who has been there. Plus, she will miss you and as much as you think about her, she thinks about you, i promise you that. To this day when i do see him out in public, when he looks at me, i can see that i'm so sorry look in his eyes, and can tell he is hurt too!!! Makes me smile, because I gave myself time to heal my broken heart and when he brakes up with her, he will be broken hearted because of me!!! (Smiling from ear to ear) Keep your chin up
Author HadItAll Posted January 19, 2006 Author Posted January 19, 2006 I was about to go to bed but decided to check my thread to see if anyone replied. AZKHO, Thank you very much for taking time out of your day to reply to my post. You many not know it but it means a lot!! You made some very good points and Im glad to know that there are people out there who have been through situations like this and are willing to help. Once Again thanks a bunch! And I guess I can somewhat sleep with a smile on my face Although its very hard.
Author HadItAll Posted January 20, 2006 Author Posted January 20, 2006 WOW! All Im doing is thinking about my ex and her f*&^&^ New boyfriend right now, since its their anniversary today. I cant BELIEVE she told me the actual date. Im just thinking about how we used to go out for dinner, watch a movie,hangout for our anni and now she's sharing it with some other guy. Im so pissed. Ahhhhhhh I cant take it.
AZKHO Posted January 22, 2006 Posted January 22, 2006 Be strong, i know it sounds hard to do right now, and i tell you that, and it makes me feel better knowing that i can say to you, who was in a similar sitution. I promise you will make it through this. everytime you start to think about your ex, think about what she did to you and how you feel. In a few short months it will be ok to think about the good times you had, but for now, this may sound bad, but don't think posatively of her, it will only cause you more heartache. If you would like you can chat with me online, i had to become very good at that tactic, thinking what they hell am i thinking about missing my ex for, he left me for another women, though in fact he did not leave me for her, but that is what it felt like at the time. I just keep remembering that i am too good for him anyways. Still i may not be in a serious relationship, but i am young and as comforting as it was to have a "man at home" it is more comforting to know, that i can do it on my own, and there is someone better than him waiting for me to walk into their life. Concentrate on yourself for a while.
Author HadItAll Posted January 22, 2006 Author Posted January 22, 2006 AZKHO, your awesome! Thanks for all your help. I truely appreciate. Its nice to know that were not alone. I actually never thought i wouls ever post on a website like this. But im glad I did. I guess I need to focus on myself. Thanks again.
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