Wiccodryy Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 My girlfriend of over a year (and mother of my unborn baby) and myself had a conversation and we both found out that we both felt like our realtionship was falling apart. We asked eachother if we thought there was anything we could do to save it. She said that maybe we should take a break, work on our problems and take a different view on things during the break. Talking about the details of the break though I she told me that while she didn't have any intentions of seeing or sleeping with anybody but that she wanted to leave that option open. I told her that I didn't want to do that and that I was wanted to be friends. I don't see how you can work on your problems in a realtionship when your open to slepping and seeing other people, seems to me that would just cause more problems. So am I to old fashion? Am I to narrow minded on this? Should I take a break and not worry about her sleeping or seeing anyone else while trying to work out our problems? Or should I stick to my guns and think that if someone wanted to work things out in a realtionship they wouldn't sleep with or see other people until either things worked out or they didn't? Any and all feedback would be welcome! Thank you in advance!
WindDrifter Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 Mate my gf/ex and I are broken up. (I reakon break just because we still see each other and want to be together.) We don't watn to see other but she says she wants time to figure things out and wants to feel like she can kiss and be with others but no neccesaringly do it. I told her I can't love someone and then be with someone else. Love is what stops me from kissing another girl or sleeping with her not the fact that we say we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I asked her can she kiss someone while still being in love with me and she said yes which really scares me. At the moment we are seeing how things go. To be honest it's up to you how long you wait or what you do. I am willing to give us the best chance. I might even fall out of love and my feelings might change but I just don't know. All I can say is follow what you feel is right. Give her time and space. Leave the option open but if she does go out and sleep or kiss others then see how you feel. If you feel you can do the same then thats up to you. If you can't do what you need to do. Ohh yeah also if you don't let it happen now and find out you are just wasting time. In the break try focus on what you want and just live for yourself. Good Luck mate its not easy! WD
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