Boundaries

[IrishDU]

I'm done with this place, but I got an email saying that somebody has replied to something...

I actually manged to get some great help elsewhere, of a reddit nudity forum, of all places, so given the complete lack of any real advice in this place, I thought I would share it.
Who knows, maybe it helps somebody.  LOL

Put simply there's nothing wrong with my fiancés' outlook, nor the way she is raising our daughter.  If anything it's healthier than my own uptight upbringing.  It is in fact considered healthy and natural where they come from.  Furthermore I have to respect that.

However, respect has to be mutual, "boundaries" are important, and it's perfectly ok if MY boundaries are different to hers and theirs.

I'd already laid out some "rules" which I guess were actually like boundaries,  and so we have gone though and spelled out some more.  I fully expect that our daughter will keep giving me cheek, and try to "end-run" around some of these.  But we've addressed that too.  Her need to be respectful, even when joking around.

I'm extra happy with the approach, because it kinda reinforces that its ok to different rules.

I'd love to explain more, but people will just accuse me of being a creep and getting off, so I'll just summarise.

1. She's "OUR" daughter, I love her, and will do everything I can to support her.
2. My comfort level says that the boundaries between Dads and Daughters is different to Mums and Daughters.  So my fiancé can set hers, but I get to set mine, and around certain things they will be very different.
3. Boundaries between Mum and Dad are completely different, and none of her business.
4. She's my daughter, and can, if needed, seriously ask me about anything.  But I can refer any appropriate question to her mother, and have already set certain boundaries, such that SOME questions go directly to the woman. 
5. Being open and honest, and being able to talk about serious subjects as a family, doesn't make them open-season for teasing and jokes.  My boundaries put some things off limits.

anyway, fingers crossed

[Carlston]

"I hate this place and all the people in it and I'm bitter and miserable but here I am anyway".

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