Partner acting as matchmaker/wingman

[cnstx82]

My partner met a woman through his car business that him and his buddy own. When she came to buy the car, she was flirting with my partner and he told her he was with me, but mentioned his buddy to her and they got on a 3 way call to introduce him to her. I was not there to hear the conversation, but basically my partner was playing middle man and his buddy ended up asking her on a date and invited my partner to join on there first outing.

This obviously made me uncomfortable and I had alot to say about it. It should have never gone past her flirting with him and business period. And no, he should not be going out with the 2 of them. His buddy never invited me either and for some time has been wanting my partner to be his wingman/matchmaker. Im not okay with my partner talking to other women to help his friend out especially considering his friend is more than old enough to find his own prospects without involving my man in his business all the time.

Thoughts? I want to think my partner had good intentions but for me I don't allow certain situations to happen or get myself involved in things that will make my partner uncomfortable.

[Sony12]

So basically you are saying you don't want your boyfriend to have female friends. He told this lady that he wasn't available and instead mentioned his friend to her. You might need to be a little more trusting. He easily could have gone out on a date with this woman but he didn't. It might of been nice for him to invite you along but if he thought you would complain about it I could see why he wouldn't.

 

 

 

[basil67]

4 hours ago, cnstx82 said:

Thoughts? I want to think my partner had good intentions but for me I don't allow certain situations to happen or get myself involved in things that will make my partner uncomfortable.

Sounds like your partner is a good wingman to his buddy.  Would you have been more comfortable if both of you went on the date with them?

[ExpatInItaly]

5 hours ago, cnstx82 said:

my partner was playing middle man and his buddy ended up asking her on a date and invited my partner to join on there first outing.

I find it very weird that this grown man wanted his buddy to come along on a date. 

I am not sure you're getting the whole story there. 

[Sony12]

4 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I find it very weird that this grown man wanted his buddy to come along on a date. 

I am not sure you're getting the whole story there. 

They worked together and ran the business together so obviously they are good friends. It probably wasn't an official date. He likely just asked if she'd like to get a drink and asked the OP's boyfriend if he'd like to come along. 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

11 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

They worked together and ran the business together so obviously they are good friends. It probably wasn't an official date. He likely just asked if she'd like to get a drink and asked the OP's boyfriend if he'd like to come along.

Yeah, still weird. 

As a woman, I wouldn't want to hang out with a potential new guy ...and his buddy. Awkward. 

 

[Gebidozo]

I don’t see anything wrong in introducing the lady to his buddy. 

The weird part is his buddy asking him to come along on his date.

I mean, they have already arranged the date. Your partner’s wingman role is done. Why on earth would his buddy want a third wheel during the date? And why would the woman agree to that?

[Sony12]

2 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

I don’t see anything wrong in introducing the lady to his buddy. 

The weird part is his buddy asking him to come along on his date.

I mean, they have already arranged the date. Your partner’s wingman role is done. Why on earth would his buddy want a third wheel during the date? And why would the woman agree to that?

If all they were doing is going to get some drinks I could see why they would do it. It seems to be the OP's interpretation that it was an official date. In reality what people are more likely to do when they have only talked to someone for a few minutes is just ask to go get a drink. And in that instance inviting a friend along isn't that odd. Infact if conversations grow stale and they find out that they don't have anything in common him and his buddy can just chat with each other.

[Carlston]

The exact circumstances and what was actually said and the context in which it was said is not clear, that much being said, it may have been more appropriate for your partner to invite you along.

How was this all explained to you and was it after the fact?