My daughter refuses to forgive her older sister who is a recovering addict

[heartbrokenmom]

Hoping to gain outsider’s advice on my sad family situation.  My youngest daughter is getting married in 2 months, and has not made ammends with her sister who has caused SO MUCH TURMOIL in our immediate family over many years.  Older daughter (will call her OD), finally hit rock bottom a year ago when she ended up in prison.  At age 14 she went down the complete wrong path, and basically caused havoc in the entire family.  She made horrible choices, stole, lied about everything, and was an addict.  Her Dad and I also divorced.  For any parent who loves an addict, it lead to excruciating heartbreak for us.  She was almost killed at age 18 (bad car accident), and we all supported her and prayed for the best and a much needed change.  OD graduated from ultrasound school, got a great job, and lived on her own.  Shortly after, old habits came into play and my youngest daughter (will call her YD) stopped all contact.  They have barely spoken in 6 yrs.  
It has been over a year since OD made a complete turnaround and is sober.  She has a job and an apt she lives in with her boyfriend.  She has shown remorse, written letters to everyone, and reconnected with everyone but her sister.  YD said she “needs more time” the last time I brought it up.  Am i wrong to be angry?  In my opinion, YD is being very judgemental……thoughts?

[Sanch62]

4 hours ago, heartbrokenmom said:

In my opinion, YD is being very judgemental……thoughts?

Judgmental isn't a word I'd throw around because you're doing it yourself.

You haven't lived YD's experience, and it's not your place to impose a timeline on her ability to forgive.