Confused by a girl

[Johnb24]

A girl at work who I chat to plays with her hair as we’re talking and has done for weeks, she doesn't appear nervous or shy and maintains eye contact, she posted a picture of herself on facebook, which I messaged her saying she looks stunning so she gets the hint, the next time I saw her at work a few days later the hair playing turned into flipping her back both sides over her shoulders and tucking it behind her ears, then later she told me my aftershave smelt nice.

we was chatting about people cheating and she happened to tell me her 2 exs both cheated on her and one played her off for another girl a few years back so she doesn't really bother with relationships anymore, as men always say there different but they aren't.

I'm being moved jobs to a bigger city about 40 minutes away, i bumped into her at work and we chatted, she walked off, then came back downa few minutes later asking when do I leave and can they make me or sack me if I don't.

I bumped into her outside of work so took the opportunity to offer her out on a date, she didn't' really know how to take it, then said she wasn't sure when she would get time what with kids, then pointed to what her kids was doing and started giggling, although i know shes been out a few weekends since

I felt awkward seeing her at work again so apologised for putting her on the spot, she said its fine honestly, and appeared the exact same, as we started chatting she started flicking her hair back again and tucking her hair her ears like she did before I asked her out.

[Carlston]

I kept expecting a question mark, then I was hoping for one. I was disappointed.

 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, Johnb24 said:

she started flicking her hair back again and tucking her hair her ears like she did before I asked her out.

You seem to be interpreting this as a signal of....something. It's nothing. It's just her moving her hair away from her face and likely has no idea you are even paying attention to this or assigning meaning to it. 

It's disappointing, but you already shot your shot and she isn't interested the way you are. I don't think there's anything to be confused about at this point. 

[Sony12]

You asked her for a date and she gave you an excuse. That should be all you need to close the book on this situation. If you don't you are going to find yourself in HR.

[RichardGarcia]

You're not really confused, you just don't like the answer. You asked her out and she did not say yes. The hair touching and complimenting your cologne don't mean much now, because plenty of people are warm or flirty at work without wanting to date a coworker. I'd stay polite, keep it professional, and not bring it up again.