Haven't heard from him after first date, should I let it go?

[flow28]

Been on a date recently, we went to a restaurant. He paid and opened the doors for me. He asked me before the date if I'd prefer a hug as a greeting, just a handshake, or no touch at all as he wanted me to feel comfortable. We went for quite a long walk afterwards. We hugged for hello and goodbye. After we parted he texted me saying to let him know when I'm home. I let him know. The next day I decided to text him. I said I had a good time and added a question about whether he logged me out of a job search website (he let me use his laptop to edit my resume as a small favour), as I forgot to log out. He reacted with a heart emoji to the 'good time' bit and said he logged me out. Since then we've been silent for like four days already. He's been active on social media. I wanna see him again but I don't know if he wants to. Should I just leave it? Some people advice me to message him again but I'm not convinced that's a good idea..

[Sony12]

Chances are he isn't interested but just in case contact him again and bring up getting together again and see how/if he replies. You'll have your answer then.

[Carlston]

He isn't interested in a second date. 

Keep it moving forward. 

Edited to add: You didn't ask if anyone has any ideas why he isn't interested but if you are looking for guesses, there's primarily one- and only one main reason why a person isn't interested in a first date and to most experienced dates it's no surprise. Well it is a surprise, that's the whole point. 

Edited April 8 by Carlston

[stillafool]

18 hours ago, flow28 said:

He asked me before the date if I'd prefer a hug as a greeting, just a handshake, or no touch at all as he wanted me to feel comfortable.

What was your answer?

[flow28]

15 minutes ago, stillafool said:

What was your answer?

I agreed for hugs.

[IrishDU]

So, just to clarify.  You've told him that you had a good time, and all you got back was an emoji?
Maybe he's like me and has ASD??

Honestly, do whatever you feel comfortable with.

If it were me, I'd just send a text and ask him straight up "Do you want to see me again?"

[Gaeta]

If you don't want to be the pursuer then move on. If you text him he may say yes to a second date but you'll still find yourself in the role of the pursuer after that. The ocean is full of fish, find one that wants to date you and is able to express it.

[Georgia46]

If you text first after the date, then after that chat there’s been nothing more from him first, I’d just leave it alone.      See if he comes back to you and if not - there’s your answer.    Don’t chase men.   

[RichardGarcia]

At this point I'd let it go.

If someone is excited after a first date, they usually make that pretty obvious and you are not left decoding mixed signals for days. You already texted him and he has your number, so the ball is in his court now.

If he circles back later, fine, decide then. But I would not spend more energy on it today.

[Sanch62]

I credit men with being perfectly capable of asking me out if they want to date me. If someone doesn't step up to that, I really don't want to date anyone who isn't as interested as me.

This doesn't mean you did anything 'wrong' or that you're not attractive. Most people are not our match. That's natural odds. So don't view this as a reflection on you; it's one guy's limited vision.

The RIGHT man for you will see you through the right lens, and you'll enjoy simpatico and have no doubts. That's the one who's worth moving forward to keep seeking.

Head high. When a train doesn't stop at your station, it's not your train.