Been talking to a girl who liked to be bullied

[carrotchips]

I've been talking to this girl for months, we've spent a lot of time watching movies and playing video games together.

I started to really like her, and I let her know almost exactly a month ago. It wasn't reciprocated, but she asked me to not change the way I treated her, so I kept my word.

The more I got to know her this past month, the more I liked her, and last night the topic came up again.

Basically, she rejected me because I don't bully her. She likes to be bullied, to the point that it turns her on, and it's non-negotiable for her in a relationship.

I told her I could try it. She said it wouldn't work if I don't actually do it. Any advice?

[Gebidozo]

There are people who are sexually aroused by rough treatment, and it’s completely normal.

However, this applies to actual sexual scenarios. I’ve never heard of people who like to be “bullied” during the courtship phase.

I might be mistaken, but I think that, even if she is really into BDSM as a sub, she used that as an excuse to reject you.

The real reason is probably much simpler - she isn’t attracted to you.

[Lotsgoingon]

Don't even think about it. Don't.

Move on to next woman. You do NOT want a woman who needs you to bully her. You take her words seriously and you'll end up feeling insecure about not being a bully. You just ran into bad luck. And she's trying to mess with your head. 

Move on. And don't even think about well maybe, I should be more bullying. No! That way lies insanity.