My BF multi-dated in the beginning. Was I truly “the one”?

[IrishDU]

2 hours ago, Gaeta said:

You ended up being the consolation price.

OP, PLEASE ignore all these stupid, bitter, comments.  

I don't know why these people want to keep insulting you, calling you a "consolation prize"

At this point, we are ALL "2nd choices."  It doesn't even make sense to think in such terms.  
I dated as a young man, then I was married for a long time and raised a family, then was divorced for many years, dated again, and finally met the most amazing incredible lady.  Should she have rejected me because I wasn't her "1st Choice"?  The idea is farcical.

Ironically this also means that I'm not saying he's necessarily the one for you.  All I'm saying is that you need to judge him on what you have now, not on how you came to be togther. 

[Gebidozo]

2 minutes ago, IrishDU said:

Should she have rejected me because I wasn't her "1st Choice"? 

Was she rejected by another man she liked while dating you and then settled for you when she couldn’t get him?

Because this is what happened to the OP.

She has valid concerns about being a second choice because the first choice was out of reach.

Are you unable to understand the difference between dating different people one after the other, eventually choosing the one you like most, and dating one person while wanting another one?

[Gaeta]

3 minutes ago, IrishDU said:

OP, PLEASE ignore all these stupid, bitter, comments

I beleive this goes against the rules of this forum. You are entitled to your opinion, I am entitled to mine, others to theirs. 

[Carlston]

2 hours ago, IrishDU said:

OP, PLEASE ignore all these stupid, bitter, comments.  

Op please ignore this stupid bitter comment.

 

[ExpatInItaly]

4 hours ago, IrishDU said:

OP, PLEASE ignore all these stupid, bitter, comments.  

It sounds like you're deeply triggered and projecting. 

I don't know who hurt you in the past, but perhaps keep your own issues in check.