Insight needed

[Yorkiboy]

Not sure if this is in the right section but here goes.. 

Ive been with my girlfriend for 3 years, were both in our 40s, the relationship itself has been very good. 

A little back story, she left her violent, controlling ex 4 years ago and moved 3 hours away, a year later we met, then the controlling ex followed, they have kids together too,  apart from keeping our relationship from him, everything was good, she got a job, new friends, which she was never allowed, we was flowing really, we didnt get to see each other as much as we liked due to living an hour apart and working constant, that being said, not a day went by that we werent on the phone, literally every day. 

A year ago we had our 1st holiday abroad together, memories that will last a life time really,  fast forward to a month ago, we had our 2nd holiday abroad, yet another awesome time. 

Over the next 3 weeks after getting back, we have spoke on the phone daily, until 8 days ago, she rang me as per usual on the morning, the conversation was normal, and as she was going she said she will phone later, love you. 

Then i heard nothing from her for 6 days, i sent 3 texts in this time, stating i was worried etc, 2 days ago she replied saying she was mentally exhausted with work, has no time for anything or anyone and just wants to shut down, cant focus on texting or phone calls and that its hard to explain,.. This happened a while back and lasted 3 days, i replied to her just asking if she still wanted to be with me, probs wrong thing to ask, and mentioned our 3rd holiday that id booked, which we was both excited about,  shes not read the message in 2 days either and i know shes been online as ive seen her listening music, shes not removed me off anything either.  Also, there was no signs she was losing interest or anything. 

I just need advice on what to do as this is killing me, so many thoughts goin through my head, ive not tried contacting her since either, this silence, for this long isnt like her... Do i wait and give her space, i just dont know. 

Thankyou for any advice

Edited Monday at 12:21 PM by Yorkiboy
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[howtomove]

I really feel for you to be honest and not wanting to hijack your post but im in a very simular situation and im guess your from york which i am too, sounds freaky that does. You have invested in someone who wasnt ready for that investment and basically in my view was a rebound.  As a couple you dont go days without talking she is torn between you and someone else. And she is struggling by sounds of it.

[Yorkiboy]

Maybe, surely i would have seen the signs, i mean, we was on the phone daily, morning and night, and when she wasnt at work she was at home, plus her ex cheated on her multiple times so she knows what its like to be on the recieving end.. 

As for a rebound, that could be a possibility, i was a year later and she told me she hadnt loved him for a long time due to his abuse and control. 

It could be many things tbh, im sick of thinking and hurting,  she was very effectionate on holiday btw, which was on 3 weeks prior to her doing this, and i booked another for us,  so ive no clue, im still on another planet at the minute, and ive still not heard from her

 

[Gebidozo]

Rebound relationships usually don’t last 3 years, so whatever it was in the beginning, I don’t think rebounding is the reason for what’s happening now.

Clearly, this is something new and serious. Maybe some tragic event occurred in her life very recently. Some people stop communicating with others when they are grieving.

If she keeps ignoring your texts and calls, I think you should go to her place and check on her.

Do you have any mutual friends? Are you in contact with her friends or family? Maybe they could explain?