what should i do in my relationship?

[Anonymous]

sorry im new to this website

i have a boyfriend ive been with for 3 years now, long distance and we're really close and like bestfriends while also dating. However ive been struggling a bit with the relationship and dont know whether to keep going, im not sure if these things are normal and i should get over these things, or if im in the wrong 

- when i told him about my past bullying experiences or very personal insecurities that affect me mentally or stop me from going out sometimes , i expected him to comfort me and sympathise but instead he was very cold and told me to harden up

- when i told him i cried because i was worried i ruined the day he got very angry at me and told me he doesnt know why i was crying, he doesnt comfort me whenever i cry and sees it more as me being dramatic or just a normal thing (when he hears me crying when we call he just asks me if im seriously crying and then ignores it)

- he broke up with me before over me getting jealous over him wanting to play a heavy overfanserviced game and girls he used to talk to in the past before me(which i regret from getting mad at though - i was very stressed from exams and i have very bad jealousy but i was really sorry) but when i kept begging him to stay he left me anyways, then came back after the next day 

in the past he used to apologise after arguments and check if im ok but now it kinda leads to him saying "i dont know what you want me to say"  

him breaking up with me really affected me , im kinda super anxious of him leaving me again , i really love him because we have so much in common and we ve been together for so long, i dont talk to other people or have friends at college so he is quite a safe space for me sometimes

[ShyViolet]

Have you ever met this guy in person?

[ExpatInItaly]

On 4/5/2026 at 12:16 AM, Anonymous said:

he doesnt comfort me whenever i cry and sees it more as me being dramatic or just a normal thing (when he hears me crying when we call he just asks me if im seriously crying and then ignores it)

How often are you crying? And why are you crying so much in this relationship? 

13 hours ago, ShyViolet said:

Have you ever met this guy in person?

I was going  to ask the same.