brunohill245 Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 I met a girl on NY eve who since I met her have had one date with. Her “hard to get” tactics are really starting to annoy me, she never answers the phone when I ring her and usually waits about an hour or two before she gets back to me by SMS or phone. Tonight I am especially annoyed because I rang her and sent her an SMS and have still not yet received a reply (it’s going to be tomorrow now when get the answer) Anyways, I’ll get to the point. Do any of you guys out there ever confront girls about their “hard to get manners” this early on in the dating game? I am 30 years old and I am quite an impatient person, the girl I am dating is 24. I agree that some of this type of behaviour is okay but EVERY SINGLE TIME, I don’t think so?! I think I’m a bit old to put up with these games, what do members think? Has anyone out there lost interest due to this type of behaviour? Would you advise to confront these problems head on or let them go for now?
lindya Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Oh man. I know you're looking for guys' responses here, but just to say that it's often an hour or two before I respond to texts. Longer even. It's not deliberate, it's just that sometimes you'll read a text, but not be able to respond there and then. This girl might well be in that position. Regardless of what you read on boards like this, it's not always about games. I think if you've got a tendency towards impatience, and this is a girl who is often unavailable, then you're probably best just moving on. No point in pursuing things if you're getting irritated by her this early on. That doesn't sound like much fun for either of you.
gfto Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 Don't ever confront a girl on "hard to get" tactics, because guess what....when a woman is highly interested in you, she doesn't play hard to get! She'll help you. She'll actually answer the phone and say, "sure, I'd like to go play pool Wednesday night.. what time?" Or, if she really can't make it Wednesday, she'll say, "well I'm busy Wednesday; could we do it Thursday?" She'll make a counteroffer. When a guy thinks a woman is playing hard to get, it's actually his gut telling him that she just isn't that into him. But, the guy will rationalize to no end......hmmm, maybe she got abducted by aliens, and that's why she hasn't returned my call.
cygny Posted January 18, 2006 Posted January 18, 2006 people have become more sophisticated. not everyone will just do what feels natural and respond or chase someone they like immediately... they know that doesn't work very well alot of the time. personally i think you are being a little unreasonable in expecting her to respond to you immediately. perhaps even pushy, which might turn her off if you make an issue out of it. i mean, didn't she have a life before you came into it a few weeks ago? what about her having a life outside of you now? it is still so early on... i never jump into a relationship headfirst like that---mostly because i am too busy... but even now, when i'm on vacation, it takes all the fun out of it. relax.
Weye Posted January 19, 2006 Posted January 19, 2006 If you decide to have a discussion with her about her waiting an hour to return a text or phonecall, you'll send her running for the hills! Just be a little more patient. 'Playing hard to get' only works when you are needy and focusing too much attention on her.
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