Update

[sillyprincess]

So don't know why my first topic got locked but ok.

So first up people keeping asking "why are you angry at him" and such.  I said I was not that I am.  I didn't even tell him for like the first 3 weeks that I knew and yeah I was really worried and stressed and angry at him.  But things are great now and he has been nothing but chill since I told him.  Its all a bit up and down because I love being pregnant but Im scared about the future but I feel better when Im with him.

So update number 1 I agreed to move in with him permanently and were not bothering with separate rooms lol.  I am loving being pregnant and love falling asleep in his arms.

So update number 2 he has asked me to marry him and Im thinking about it.  People asked me if I love him and I dont really know the answer.  I think that I do.  I missed not been with him and want to be all the time.  The stuff that used to bug me doesnt and I see past the outside because he has a really good heart. ANd I always thought sex was fun but now it feels like making love

he wants to do it formally and be a family together which I know that plenty of people do that without actually being married.  He says its down to me and he will respect whatever I choose but he said he is proud to have a kid with me and would be proud for me to be his wife.  I figure he should be because he getting a bit of a bargain but nobody else has ever said that to me.  I know Im not really mature lol, but what am I going to do?  Im going to be a mum so Ive got to start thinking like one.

Not going to lie a lot of my friends have been weirded out by this.  But some of them have kids with no man on the scene and just go on the centrelink and thats not for me.  Some others think Im mad for having a kid but I am definitely doing that.  My mum wont even come out and visit me even though I said Id pay so she is no hope.  And I never knew my dad so that is not happening to my kid.

I dont know what to do because some days I think we should wait and see but other days I just want that ring on my finger.

[Imogen_77]

I would not stay with him just because you’re pregnant. Do you have a stable career and income, and are you in a position that allows you to be a decent parent? I mean you can still coparent, obviously, but I don’t think it’s a good idea to throw a kid in the mix when you’re not even that sure about the relationship itself. Plus, the age difference!
Motherhood is not for the weak. It’s stressful even if you have a partner whom you love and adore, and who is in his “prime”   ….. I don’t think you’ve thought that through. 

[IrishDU]

At the risk of pointing out the obvious, this is obviously a very tumultuous time for you, so take your time to think everything through.

You say that you're living with the guy, sleeping with him, and enjoying.  So there's nothing wrong with that.  The guy wants to step up, be a Dad, and provide for his kid, and that's a good thing.

You say he wants to formalise it, so maybe check with a family law clinic about the laws in your state and country.  
But as a general rule, if you're married, and he eventually leaves you a widow then you would stand to inherit and you would be provided for.