Would you say she's interested?

[spideyfan300]

Hey everyone, I'd love to know your opinion on my situation. I feel like I'm in sort of a gray area but I could just be looking too far into this. 

 

So over the past few weeks, this woman has been coming into my job while babysitting. She started initiating conversation with me at first about personal-ish stuff (how tired she feels, cutting out chai, late night snacks, etc) but one day we had a really strong interaction where we talked for about 30 minutes and laughed, swapped stories about kids being brutal (getting told “F you” by one kid, etc.), introduced ourselves, and she even asked me questions like “are you local?” and she mentioned she was raised in the UK, which was a cool coincidence for me. The conversation was so good she completely forgot about her babysitting duties, I had to remind her of it. She even came back to continue the conversation after briefly leaving to tend to the kids, which felt like a legit sign she enjoyed talking to me and was maybe sort of into me. The kids basically walked up to her by the end of the conversation to get her attention. 

 

After this exchange, I was feeling confident that I wasn't misreading the signs so on Tuesday I finally asked her if she’d like to grab coffee sometime. She said “yes sure" but had a poker face on the entire time. I didnt really detect a whole lot of enthusiasm. I then gave her my number on a piece of paper. Because of her poker face I had assumed she might not have been interested or something, but she actually wound up texting me about an hour later saying: “hey it’s _____” 

 

That day we texted a bit about pets and comfort shows for about an hour before the conversation just sort of... stopped. It felt like I was carrying the conversation basically, since she didnt really ask me anything about myself. During this chat she said she’s comfortable doing coffee but wasn’t sure if she’d be free Thursday but said she'd more than likely have time during the weekend or maybe next week. 

 

So I texted again the next day to tell her that Thursday wouldn't work for me & suggested Saturday or Monday. However she said those days didn’t work for her, but Monday “might be feasible.” Then after about 15 or so minutes she ended the convo kind of abruptly with “my dog is insistent I continue to play fetch with him”. It was a good conversation before she had to go, she actually had a tad bit more to contribute this time around. At one point she said she’d “save the other stories for coffee,” which to me sounded like she was still open to it.

 

The issue is the planning side. When I tried to narrow down days, it stayed vague. She said the weekend/next week was pretty open, but then Saturday didn’t work, and Monday was only a maybe. It was more “I’ll let you know” than anything concrete. She’s a substitute teacher and babysits a few days a week, so I know her schedule can genuinely be inconsistent. But at the same time, she is off for spring break next week, so it does feel sort of like if she really wanted to make it happen, she’d make it a little easier. I haven't heard from her since Wednesday and am having doubts I'll hear anything anytime soon

 

I don’t want to chase or keep sending messages, and I also don’t want to create awkwardness since this started at my workplace. 

 

So I would really love to know everyone's feedback on what they make of her demeanor? Does she seem uninterested or am I just overthinking everything? What is the best move here? I'm thinking I should probably stop texting completely until she reaches out to me herself to offer a day/time. And if she doesn't reach out, then I have my answer, unfortunately. 

Edited 13 hours ago by spideyfan300

[Gebidozo]

First of all, there were no “signs” when you first talked. She enjoyed a friendly conversation with you. There was nothing wrong in asking her out for coffee afterwards, but I don’t know what exactly you expected.

Second, you said no to Thursday and she said no to Saturday. I don’t see what the problem is. You were busy on one day, she was busy on another day. No conclusions can be possibly made based on this information. Just reschedule the coffee meeting for another day.

[Sony12]

While it sounds like you two enjoy chatting together it doesn't sound like your schedules are very compatible and neither one of you seem like you are willing to go out if your way to set something up. 

Setting up a first date or meet shouldn't be difficult if both parties are truly interested in making it happen. If it is challenging that is often a sign that it isn't meant to be at least right now. Maybe sometime down the road it might be feasible but not currently.