Threads closed after only a month??

[merrmeade]

Hi, I haven’t been on the site regularly for several years but got a lot of help from the Infidelity forum when I was posting. I revisited the Infidelity forum this afternoon, commented on a few threads and read some others that had been closed after a month of inactivity. These threads had red boxes at the bottom saying only the author could post and to start a new thread instead. I observed that there were only three active threads within the past two months. 
 

Thre red box message is essentially stating that the participants have left the room, and the conversation is over. No one is listening. But this is not the case with heavy-duty romantic concerns. 
 

First of all, I guarantee that NO ONE is going to deal with the thoughts and reactions they’d have shared by opening a new thread. Also, the issues discussed in the forums on romantic relationships often go deep, people work on them for years even. I believe my first thread was dozens of pages long and lasted three years at least. In fact, didn’t we used to leave it up to the OP to close a thread? 

While I’m glad the site is being actively monitored, I’d like to petition a review of the site guidelines  I think the forums in the marriage and dating group should be allowed a longer period of time before they’re closed to new comments.

Otherwise, this is sad and kind of a death knell. If people can’t react after reading a good conversation, it will be the demise of the forum. Hard life experiences, especially when sex and emotions are involved, simmer over months and years. They’re not resolved in a month.

Just think about it, please? Thanks.

[Lisa]

Hi merrmeade, thanks for your thoughts.  Unfortunately the owner of the site is the only one able to make changes of this type, and they haven't been around for a very long time.  Feel free to make an update and insert a hyperlink back to your previous thread.

[merrmeade]

I don’t need to reopen my old threads. I was just pointing out that people will lose interest in inactive threads and go away. The site will slowly shut down, one forum at.a time. Maybe this is the plan. Why do you stick around? Do you get paid by this disappeared owner? 

Edited yesterday at 07:40 AM by merrmeade

[Lisa]

I'm unpaid and just do this in a bit of my spare time.   I stick around because I'd feel sad if the site fell into complete disrepair.   Closed threads don't bother me, though I'm not sure why they were designed to close after a period of being unused.