What do I say to this...

[whelchel56]

My partner just told me that he is going to continue to be mean, rude, and nasty to me until I, " treat him the way that he wants to be treated".

Where or how do I to address this?

[Acacia98]

- How exactly are you treating him right now?

- How does he want to be treated?

- Give us some examples of the things he says and does to you.

- How long have you been together?

- Do you have to be together or is breaking up an option?

[whelchel56]

We have been together 30 years. (married 8). I am treating him as a roommate since I found him on various sites such as Chaterbate and Asian women make better wives. He wants me to be more thankful and respectful as he pays the main bills. I give him $200 a month and I pay for all my own expenses and pay for meals for both of us. I get $514 a month from SS to live on so I am dependent on him. Anything extra that I come into such as selling my artwork, he takes. He is constantly searching my things when I am out. He is terrible about calling names and refuses to stop telling me that words don't hurt him so get over it. I refuse to treat him that way. He has been extremely abusive in the past both physically and emotionally.

His emotions vary from minute to minute and his episodes can last for hours or weeks. He seems to be trying to change by being very nice recently as long as I do not try to talk about his issues. Last night he called me a liar and was nasty because he saw that I had been on Facebook when I had told him that I do not use Facebook anymore. The truth was that I clicked a link to play a casino game and evidently that casino is connected to Facebook. When I explained this to him it made no difference and he does not apologize. I laid down for a nap today and he screamed  at me to wake up because I was parked behind him and he wanted to leave. He has no respect for me and tells me that I am bought and paid for. He says that if I don't like it there's' the door. 

 

[Gebidozo]

Surely even living independently on $514 + extras a month would be better than the misery of sharing your life with this abusive creep?

Are there any family members or friends that could help you move out and find a place? Do you have any savings at all?

For that matter, how did it happen that you stayed with him for 30 (!) years? How did you come to depend on him financially?