My girlfriend is unsure about having kids

[asdf100]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months at least once a week, and we saw each other's parents and close friends. We share the same relationship goal of getting married, but the only problem is that she's unsure about having kids. She basically told me she wants zero to three. I want to have a kid or two and talk about this issue but don't want to push my wish down her throat. So how should I deal with this situation? Has anyone here went through the same situation in the past?

Edit: I forgot to write that I'm 38 years old and she's 33.

Edited March 17 by asdf100

[Gebidozo]

I’m in a bit of a similar situation. 50 years old, fiancée is 32. 3 years together. I want a kid in the future, she is unsure.

It all boils down to whether not having kids is a dealbreaker to you or not. To me it’s not (I do have a son from a previous marriage, however). When I saw that I had a choice between being with this woman while possibly having no more kids and potentially having more kids with someone else, I chose the first.

Decide whether you could honestly and fully accept the scenario of being with her but having no kids. If so, then by all means do express your wish to have kids, just don’t pressure her into that. She didn’t say “no kids for sure”. Things might change in the future.

 

[stillafool]

There's an epidemic of women no longer wanting to have kids lately.  Everywhere I read they are saying how kids ruin a woman's life and health.   They say they want to be free to travel and enjoy their lives. Of course, that's not true but if you really want children do not settle for a woman who isn't sure she wants kids because deep down she probably does not and you won't become a father.

[IrishDU]

On 3/17/2026 at 11:45 AM, asdf100 said:

She basically told me she wants zero to three.

Honestly, at your age, and after dating for 6 months, it's time to s*** or get off the pot.

You SHOULD be able to have mature adult conversations about such things.  Her saying "yes I want kids" isn't an iron-clad contract to immediately begin procreating.  If SHE can't understand that, then she really needs to grow up.

If you try to have such a conversation, and her attitude remains apparently ambivalent, then what she's really saying is "I don't want to have kids (with you), but I also don't want to be alone right now."  
Make of that what you will.