Should I keep going, or is it time to walk away?

[anonymousteller]

On 3/20/2026 at 2:57 AM, ExpatInItaly said:

It's not going to end the way you want. 

You might be right that this won't end the way I want. Honestly, I think about that every day.

[ExpatInItaly]

49 minutes ago, anonymousteller said:

f we waited six months without sex, and she finally left him only to realize later that I couldn't satisfy her needs the way he did, it would be a point of no return.

 This is an astoundingly awful way to treat someone (him) You don't get to sexually test-drive other people while you are in a relationship. 

It's also exceedingly immature. Adults break up with people when the relationship isn't working. They break up before they cheat, and yes, there is a risk they might find out the alternative wasn't great. But you know what? That is what grown-ups do and deal with. The above is just you and her giving yourselves pretty crappy hall passes to keep doing what you are doing. 

42 minutes ago, anonymousteller said:

Why is it better to destroy that world with the truth right now?

You cannot seriously be that clueless. 

 

 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

28 minutes ago, anonymousteller said:

You might be right that this won't end the way I want. Honestly, I think about that every day.

As you should. That way it won't be such a shock when it all falls apart. 

[anonymousteller]

On 3/20/2026 at 6:13 AM, Acacia98 said:

Look, the fact that there's something wrong with this woman's relationship (there must be; otherwise, she would be doing everything in the world to protect it) is entirely separate from her decision to have regular sex with you. In an ideal world, she would stop sleeping with you and focus on determining whether her relationship was worth salvaging or not. She's not going to die if she stops sleeping with you. You're not going to disappear in a puff of smoke if you stop getting together with her. 

You are right—there is definitely something wrong with their relationship. The problems started when his job moved him away, leaving them together only 2 days a week instead of 7. She was left with a deep void for those 5 days of silence and distance. Having me there is simply the way she chose to fill that void and manage the problems that were already there.