Issues in a friendship of mine

[Tia_minds]

This really got me. I had something similar happen when I moved and my whole routine changed, and a friend who'd been in my life for years just couldn't adjust to the new version of things. She kept treating any gap in contact as proof I didn't care, and no amount of "I'm still here, just differently" seemed to land.

I think some people experience closeness as constant presence, and when that changes, they feel abandoned even if nothing actually ended. That doesn't make them wrong exactly, but it also doesn't mean you're failing at friendship. You clearly put a lot into this relationship over a long time. The fact that your life evolved isn't a betrayal, even if it feels that way to him.