Problematic relationship (Male 16)

[AntonioMFKR]

So basically there’s this girl(14) Well we used to date right? Like a few months ago and then we broke up, because of a stupid misunderstanding. Then we had a bad argument on New Year’s Eve and I never thought she’d talk to me again, fast forward to tomorrow evening where she came up and hugged me, really tightly. And I looked her in the eye and jokingly said “you’re horrible” and she then said “yeah I know, but you have to live with me like that now” then she smiles so nicely winks and walks away. Then today I asked her if she had five minutes to talk, and it ended up being us catching up on 5 months worth of life. I noticed that she was glaring at me when I wasn’t looking, looking at my lips, her pupils dilated every time she looked at me.  You know the usual signs of affection or attraction. Then we go on a walk e few hours later, and we got physically closer and closer until we were like right in each other’s faces, then I asked her if she was sure she wanted to do this again and she said no I’m not sure. Then kissed me. After a bit of that we walked about halfway back to school, and I decide to go for a walk alone, so I say goodbye and I go another way. Then later this evening. I told her I needed to talk about everything so I could understand and it ended with her drawing swastikas on me anyway, then she leaves, without even giving me a hug when I ask for one. After she started kissing and holding me tight, which really confused me. Then just as I was he ready for bed I get a message that says “can I borrow a shirt from you?” and I get even more confused. But I gave her the shirt and she kissed me again. 

Edited 9 hours ago by AntonioMFKR

[Gebidozo]

19 minutes ago, AntonioMFKR said:

it ended with her drawing swastikas on me

What?..

[AntonioMFKR]

That’s a normal thing between us 

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, AntonioMFKR said:

That’s a normal thing between us 

Uh… Just to clarify, do the swastikas that you draw on each other (?) refer to your Hindu or Buddhist faith? I live in East Asia and swastikas are very common in Buddhist temples here, which is perfectly fine, but I’ve never seen people drawing them on themselves or others. If you live in the West, you probably shouldn’t draw swastikas, as they have sadly become inseparably associated with the ideology of Nazism.

As for the rest of your post, she is being playful, and she is teasing you. It is pretty clear that she wanted to get back together However, judging by your post, you’ve been very passive. She is probably beginning to feel annoyed and frustrated why she is doing all the flirting and you just ask questions instead of attempting to get back together with her.

Which is ultimately what matters here. Do you want to get back together with her? If so, then show it to her clearly. If you don’t want to get back together with her, stop having such a close contact with her.

[AntonioMFKR]

Thanks for the advice, I do really love her, and the swastikas well she’s just a silly teenager. And so am I, so it means nothing really. 

[ExpatInItaly]

24 minutes ago, AntonioMFKR said:

 the swastikas well she’s just a silly teenager. And so am I, so it means nothing really. 

Then it's time to learn how ridiculously offensive it is to draw swastikas on each other. It does not mean "nothing."