Not sure how he feels.

[Rhi20]

I’m a 37F and have been causally seeing 52M for a few months. He texts often but sometimes it dwindles. I know I shouldn’t care but I notice he adds a lot of women on his social media, some local to us, some from where he’s originally from. I ask him if anything is going on with any of these other women and he tells me they’re only friends. I have told him if he sleeps with these women he needs to tell me as I don’t want to be used. He keeps saying we’ll go for meals or days out etc but so far it hasn’t happened. I think deep down I know I need to stop seeing him as I’m starting to feel jealous when he adds women on his social media and I don’t want to feel like that. He tells me he likes me a lot and wants to keep seeing me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. 

[ExpatInItaly]

6 hours ago, Rhi20 said:

I have told him if he sleeps with these women he needs to tell me as I don’t want to be used.

He can't "use" you without your participation. 

You are seeing he doesn't have much interest in dating you. If he did, well, you'd be going on dates. However, it sounds as though that isn't happening. It is up to you to draw your own boundaries and not see or sleep with him anymore if this arrangement isn't working for you. 

 

[ShyViolet]

You need to trust your gut on this one.  You are seeing multiple signs that this guy isn't serious about you, he isn't interested in properly dating you, only keeping it super casual and keeping his options open.  Stop wasting your time with this guy.

[Sanch62]

Watch the actions, not the lips.

Talk is cheap. If he doesn't back up what he 'says' with actions, then he's full of BS.