Is it ok to keep this a secret from my son?

[Guyunder]

I am 44, man. I been involved in a friends with benefits relationship with a 22 year old woman since November last year. I saw her on Facebook was really attracted to her so I send her a message and we ended up here. We are just interested in a casual relationship and we really enjoy our company. 

The problem is I saw on her fb she went to the same school as my son. I asked her about it, and she confirmed she knows him and they were in the same class but weren't t friends and they didn't talk much. 

My son is away at his mom's at the moment, as we are divorced, but he's coming back in 4 days and I feel aukward now a little. He lives with me. 

I asked her how she feels, and she is not bothered about my son, so I thought we don't need to let him know and just continue our relationship. I mean it's none of his business right? 

 

[ShyViolet]

I think it would be super weird to tell your son this.  Why does he need to know about this?  It would be very random to tell him that you are sleeping with some girl who he went to school with, someone who he was never friends with or anything.  He would probably rather not know about your sex life.

[Guyunder]

14 minutes ago, ShyViolet said:

I think it would be super weird to tell your son this.  Why does he need to know about this?  It would be very random to tell him that you are sleeping with some girl who he went to school with, someone who he was never friends with or anything.  He would probably rather not know about your sex life.

I got told by some people on a different site that I should be honest. I agree, I don't see why I need to tell. 

[Sanch62]

Why imagine this as a secret? If son wants to know about your dating life, he can ask. 

[Guyunder]

13 minutes ago, Sanch62 said:

Why imagine this as a secret? If son wants to know about your dating life, he can ask. 

True, I'll be honest if the time comes. 

[flitzanu]

you aren't dating, you're just sleeping with her.

you should be honest if your son asks about your life, sure, but if you just randomly tell him you're sleeping with someone half your age that he went to school with, that sounds more like bragging than having a family discussion about feelings.

 

**edit, i don't say "half your age" as a judgment just as matter of fact.

Edited 5 hours ago by flitzanu

[Guyunder]

3 minutes ago, flitzanu said:

you aren't dating, you're just sleeping with her.

you should be honest if your son asks about your life, sure, but if you just randomly tell him you're sleeping with someone half your age that he went to school with, that sounds more like bragging than having a family discussion about feelings.

 

**edit, i don't say "half your age" as a judgment just as matter of fact.

Yeah I don't plan on telling him