how do I break the ice better in a conversation?

[Mimiangi]

Lately, I've managed to find time to be alone with the girl I like, but the thing is, we're both very introverted, and sometimes it's hard to start or keep a conversation going. We're both studying the same thing, so I also want to try to avoid that topic as much as possible so we're not always talking about the same thing.

And I'd like to know how to start a conversation so we can both enjoy ourselves and get to know each other better.

 

[Gebidozo]

Talk about things that matter most to you.

I always did that and found it to be a great way to either connect on a deeper level or disconnect faster and in a painless fashion.

If the girl turns out to be passionate about what you’re most passionate about, or at least admires your own passion for those things, then the chemistry between you two will spike significantly. If not, then you’ll know that’s not someone you’d want to date seriously. In either case, there will be progress.

 

Edited February 19 by Gebidozo

[smackie9]

"So what do you like to do in your spare time?" "So what places do you like to eat?" "Where did you grow up?" "You like listening to music?" "See any good shows lately?" "You into any video games?" "You like board games?" 

[basil67]

4 hours ago, smackie9 said:

"So what do you like to do in your spare time?" "So what places do you like to eat?" "Where did you grow up?" "You like listening to music?" "See any good shows lately?" "You into any video games?" "You like board games?" 

And when they give the answer, dig further on the topic. 

[FredEire]

What matters most Ive found is authenticity.

Its not the standard advice but Ive had friends who would just go up to people and say the most wild whacked out stuff you could imagine and people loved them.

Now thats not to say you should go up to people and say youre a big Jeffrey Dahmer fan and aspire to be just like him, but if you have any kind of social awareness you're not going to do that, obviously.

But stuff that's a little bit more unusual actually engages people more, people are bored of hearing "terrible weather, huh?", "did you see the game at the weekend?", "do you come here often?" etc all day.

So the challenge of an introvert is to basically speak you mind and say whatever you want to say if you feel like saying it, of course within reason. If she's also interested in the conversation, even if its coming a bit out of left field, it'll probably be a plus for you.

Edited 3 hours ago by FredEire