Semi-breakup after 6 years together, moved out because of disagreement about second child. I feel stuck between reconciliation and separation.

[Kaito1279]

Hi everyone,

 

I’m looking for honest perspectives because I feel very confused and emotionally stuck right now.

 

My partner and I have been together for about 6 years and we have a 5-year-old child together. Our relationship has never been perfect, especially during the first year we argued a lot, and during conflicts we sometimes talked about breaking up, but we never actually separated.

 

Recently, a major issue came up. My partner strongly wants a second child, and I don’t feel ready or willing to have another child. She gave me an ultimatum: either we try for another child or we break up.

 

Because of this, we decided on a kind of “semi-breakup”. I moved out so we could both reflect and decide what we really want and whether there is any compromise possible.

 

There are other underlying issues too:

 

- We are very different people with different interests.

- She says she feels I don’t give enough emotional support. I’m trying to understand whether that’s true and what it means.

- Sometimes she compares me to other men (for example saying someone else does more for his partner or buys certain things).

 

- She also calls me a “princess” and says I have feminine feelings. Sometimes she even calls me “gay.” She claims she’s the “man” of the house because she makes all the decisions. However, when I give my opinion, she downplays it and makes fun of me, which is why I let her decide.

 

 

- We rarely go out together anymore because she says she isn’t happy when we are together. I also notice that when we go out, I don’t feel much enjoyment either, and I don’t fully understand why.

 

Before the second-child topic came up, I actually felt our relationship was improving somewhat, and I had become used to our life together.

 

Since moving out, I feel a lot of uncertainty. I keep thinking about our child and how all of this will affect him. I find myself going back and forth between:

 

- trying reconciliation (possibly accepting the idea of another child), or

- accepting that maybe we should separate.

 

I don’t know if my confusion means the relationship still has potential or if it’s a sign that we are fundamentally incompatible.

 

I would really appreciate advice from people who have experienced something similar:

 

- How do you know whether to try reconciliation or move toward separation?

- Is it realistic to stay together when one partner wants another child and the other doesn’t?

- How should I think about this decision while also considering our child’s wellbeing?

 

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, Kaito1279 said:

- Is it realistic to stay together when one partner wants another child and the other doesn’t?

It would be realistic if neither were a dealbreaker to either of the partners.

It is absolutely not realistic in your case. First, because your partner has made it abundantly clear that not having a second child is a dealbreaker to her.

Second, because there are other severe issues in your relationship that warrant a breakup.

 

1 hour ago, Kaito1279 said:

How do you know whether to try reconciliation or move toward separation?

In your case, this question is easy to answer. You move towards separation because the way she’s been treating you is disrespectful, unloving, and bordering on abusive.

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[Sanch62]

8 hours ago, Kaito1279 said:

- She also calls me a “princess” and says I have feminine feelings. Sometimes she even calls me “gay.” She claims she’s the “man” of the house because she makes all the decisions. However, when I give my opinion, she downplays it and makes fun of me, which is why I let her decide.

- We rarely go out together anymore because she says she isn’t happy when we are together. I also notice that when we go out, I don’t feel much enjoyment either, and I don’t fully understand why.

Unfortunately, none of the above can be resolved by having another baby. This woman doesn't respect you, which makes it unlikely she can love you. You deserve a better relationship with someone who can appreciate you. This woman is not her.

Edited 2 hours ago by Sanch62