Has not confirmed date

[irresolute]

Hello everyone!

this has happened:  on Monday night I was on bumble and saw a neighbor. I decided to swipe right because I always kinda like him. We didn’t interact much, and I haven’t seen him fir the past couple of years. Last time I saw him, he was married and I was as well. I know his wife wanted to separate like 10 years ago and my situation has changed as well.

So, I swiped right. That night, he swiped right on me and sent me a message first. He seemed interested, he didn’t mention he knew me, and I didn’t either. We talked about food. I told him “we should continue this over a glass of wine”. He answered “definitely!” And suggested Friday. 
I said ok Friday evening. He then said Friday evening he had a family meeting and he was thinking more of Friday afternoon, but that he was going to confirm me -today if he was free or not at night.

he did. He said he was not free but that he wanted to see me this weekend if possible. I replied ok, Saturday afternoon. 
he said “lovely” and he suggested a glass of wine and a walk on a nice neighborhood. I replied “awesome, I’ll let you surprise me”

So, we already have the day, the time, and a general place but not the exact spot. Last text was this morning. Today is Thursday night and I’m annoyed at the speed in which he messages. Awful. Like one text per day.

what to do? Also… I have no idea if he recognized me as his old neighbor or not (we talked a couple times, about our dogs but nothing more, and one time he stopped me to ask me about my then husband, so he knew who I was and who I was married to…)

 

(He’s 61 years old, I’m 48)

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[Gebidozo]

I don’t understand what the problem is.

One message per day is completely normal. What is there to talk about in text? You haven’t even gone out on your first date.

Just wait till Saturday, go out with him and see how that goes.

Edited 8 hours ago by Gebidozo

[irresolute]

18 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

I don’t understand what the problem is.

One message per day is completely normal. What is there to talk about in text? You haven’t even gone out on your first date.

Just wait till Saturday, go out with him and see how that goes.

Thanks for your reply. 
I have other matches that are more talkative and message me several times a day. I feel confident that they like me. With this guy, I’m not sure.

just an update: it’s 11 pm and he just confirmed the place. I update of what happens. I’m unsure of whether he recognized me or not. Or if we’re both playing dumb 

[Gebidozo]

6 hours ago, irresolute said:

I have other matches that are more talkative and message me several times a day. I feel confident that they like me.

Why?

There are many reasons for messaging someone several times a day, not the least of which are neediness, clinginess, and the desire to control the other person, none of which have anything to do with the degree of liking someone.

Please don’t be so naive and wait till you actually go out on dates with all those guys and get to know them better. You can’t get to know anyone over text.

[Sony12]

Some people enjoy having a conversation style of communication while others don't and just prefer to share necessary information to set up a date or meet. Neither is wrong and you will probably just click better with the people who communicate the way you prefer.

[introverted1]

1 hour ago, Gebidozo said:

There are many reasons for messaging someone several times a day, not the least of which are neediness, clinginess, and the desire to control the other person, none of which have anything to do with the degree of liking someone.

Not to mention that, at 61, this man grew up at a time when being constantly tethered to one's phone was not a thing.  Nor was having multiple conversations (text or otherwise) before a first date.