a guy in his 30s living with parents in nyc while paying for grad school. is this a turnoff?

[cashny3]

9 hours ago, basil67 said:

I know you have a therapist, but do you have a psychiatrist?  Because it sounds like you're in a crushing depression and need help.  And while you're talking about wanting to die, you're not in a fit state to be dating anyway.  

On a different note, do you have friends?   Do you hang out with them and enjoy their company?

 

I have friends and enjoy their company but that doesn't make up for my lack of romance. and yea I have a psychiatrist. he wants me to start spravato and tms for my ocd but I'm not expecting any miracles. I'd be a lot more happy if I knew I was datable and lovable romantically. I would be much happier getting with attractive women. but I know nobody in nyc who has a lot of options wants a skinny 5 foot 8 guy barely making any money. 

[flitzanu]

2 hours ago, cashny3 said:

I have friends and enjoy their company but that doesn't make up for my lack of romance. and yea I have a psychiatrist. he wants me to start spravato and tms for my ocd but I'm not expecting any miracles. I'd be a lot more happy if I knew I was datable and lovable romantically. I would be much happier getting with attractive women. but I know nobody in nyc who has a lot of options wants a skinny 5 foot 8 guy barely making any money. 

as a clinically diagnosed depressed person myself, with all due respect, this is not accurate.

if your chemicals in your brain are not in sync, then it isn't going to matter how successful or bangable you are, you're still going to be depressed.

it's like being sad and taking a vacation - you're just going to be sad in Hawaii.