Shoot my shot, or take a hike?

[Repentant]

Anyway, I'd say this thread is genuinely done at this point, the only posters who are right now are those saying it's been dissected so much, it turned to spam. 

Unfollowing, catch you on the flip side!

[FredEire]

13 minutes ago, Repentant said:

Oh, believe me, if I want to be aggressive, I'll be aggressive, there's nothing passive going on! As I've said, no hard feelings toward anyone! Yes, lost my marbles at the thought of someone (NOT HER, this is specifically for @introverted1, got you covered!) being that friggin' selfish and shallow, but it has become increasingly annoying that you're all refusing to understand that your goals and mine do not align.

You're offering up the way YOU do things as THE way to do things, and then, when the person to whom you're offering this advice does stop, considers it, takes into account all implications, and sets it side by side with their goal and sees that they do not align, you bring out the gratuitous insults. Again, your very behaviour so far contradicts what you've said. 

This does not intrinsically mean "they'll eventually shut up and agree with me," y'know. This means just that, that they are open to seeing the info around them and contextualising it through their own perspective. Why would ANYONE assimilate and apply things which don't function in tandem with their goals? I'm not saying it's a bad thing to receive advice one can't actively use, because, as I've said in an earlier comment, it still serves to put things into perspective.

Which, again, this thread has done so! It's just that it helped me better define how I'm going about my own, specific goal, which, again, doesn't need to align with yours.

You do realise this is an ADVICE forum right? Meaning someone comes on here unsure what to do/unsure if what they are doing is the best course of action and other people give their take on how they see it.

If someone comes in already fully convinced that their way is absolutely what they want to be doing and its all fine just the way it is, I really have no idea why they would come on here.

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, Repentant said:

I saw her locked onto a guy from their group while I went out for a smoke, and I noticed her "vanishing" for a tick with the same guy last time, although I didn't see what they were up to then. My friend noticed this, too, and she told me that they've known each other for a very long time now. 

And from that you deduce that she was never interested in you? Why? There could be millions of different reasons for her flirting with you and flirting with him as well. Maybe she is just naturally flirty.

Dude, I think you just keep randomly jumping to really far-fetched conclusions. It feels like you’re trying to forcefully squeeze real, living human beings into your pre-conceived notions of how humans are supposed to behave.

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, Repentant said:

And, again, with all due respect, I cannot follow your advice on this even as a hypothetical future occurrence, because it wouldn't serve my goal of finding someone with a bit of depth and patience. I genuinely wouldn't want to have a relationship with someone who'd react so brusquely based on so little.

You vehemently deny calling that girl superficial and then immediately state that she lacks depth and patience