Shoot my shot, or take a hike?

[flitzanu]

20 hours ago, Repentant said:

Yep, you called it, conversation died after an initially promising beginning. Thank you! Moving on! 

so this means you texted her and asked her our but it didn't work out?

[Repentant]

43 minutes ago, flitzanu said:

so this means you texted her and asked her our but it didn't work out?

Ah, no, thought I'd say "hello" beforehand, test the waters a bit - made a joke about finally having escaped my hangover, apologised if I behaved like an idiot Saturday, asked her how it's going. She replied enthusiastically, then took over half a day to reply to my next text (got one this morning). We seem to be repeating the same pattern today, and, ironically, this is even the point where the conversation would have shifted nicely into me asking her out :)) I guess I'll see tomorrow if we reach the point where I'll ask her out, if these days have been an indicator of the rhythm:))

Edited 1 hour ago by Repentant

[Repentant]

6 hours ago, MarriageRealist said:

You’re overthinking this in a good way - it shows you’re being thoughtful and respectful. Here’s the thing: there was clear mutual interest that night (the flirting, physical touch, exchanging numbers, her smiling at your gestures), and she hearted your song on Instagram, which is a positive sign. Waiting a week is actually perfectly fine and doesn’t come across as desperate - it shows you’re not overly eager while still being interested. Just reach out with something casual and genuine, maybe reference the song or something you talked about that night, and suggest getting coffee or drinks to actually get to know each other better. The “drunk guy from last week” concern is valid, but you can easily counter that by being thoughtful and intentional in how you approach her now - show her you remember your conversation and are genuinely interested in her as a person, not just someone you met at a bar. If she’s interested, she’ll appreciate you reaching out; if she’s not or was just being flirty that night, you’ll know and can move on. You’ve got nothing to lose by trying, and the worst that happens is she’s not interested - which is way better than spending more time wondering “what if.“

Thank you! I bit the bullet and texted her yesterday, we're four texts deep into a very choppy conversation so far:)) Don't yet know what it means, as her replies seem engaged and involved, but the interval between them is considerable. I'll ask her out tomorrow if the conversation progresses (I've been left on Seen today so far). Either way, a conclusion will have been reached.