Shoot my shot, or take a hike?

[Repentant]

Last Saturday I went out support-drinking with one of my friends. A bit later into the evening, a couple more of her friends showed up. One of them, gorgeous woman, instantly stuck to me. She talked all night, all the while playing with her hair, being VERY touchy-feely (with me and herself, she rubbed her chest... quite a bit while talking to me, even had to blurt out a playful quip about it to get her to ease up, because it was doing things to me), complimenting my looks, my accessories, my style, shifting her place to be closer when the group reunited, etc. 

Now, I was waaay too drunk to pursue anything, plus my main goal was being there for my friend. I did send a couple of "I kinda' dig you" signals of my own, including brushing her hair over her ear at one point (I have no idea how we got there, but I do remember she smiled when I did it). Exchanged numbers, gave me her Insta, and at one point I lost track of the night a bit. Got back home in the morning, dropped a song I'd mentioned earlier on Insta, went to bed. Woke up at noon with the song hearted. No further interactions.

I've talked with my friend a bit about this, she told me she doesn't know her all that well, as they're rather mutual acquaintances than outright friends, but she did say that her acquaintance is a bit on the flirty side, so I've managed my expectations around this. Still, to my not-intentionally-flirty mind, one wouldn't flirt with, say, a telephone pole, so some sort of interest was there and it was mutual. I mean, I would, but as a bit.

Hence my dilemma. I was thinking of giving it the week, then asking her out for a get-to-know (taking into account any other potential messages from her, but I'm not expecting any), but I can't shake the thought that I may be barking up the wrong tree. Plus I am aware of the fact that it may come off as creepy - drunk guy from last week reaching out for a get-together, so I'm trying to minimise discomfort for both of us. Can't stop thinking about her so far, though.

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, Repentant said:

Still, to my not-intentionally-flirty mind, one wouldn't flirt with, say, a telephone pole, so some sort of interest was there and it was mutual.

Here's the thing, though: some people are natrually sort of flirty - or even outright flirty when they have some drinks in them. It doesn't always mean they want to take it further. 

I would say her not really reacting to what you sent her doesn't really signal a lot of interest, but you did you send her some sort of message along with the song? Or just the song itself? I am wondering if you gave her much to reply to. 

[introverted1]

Shoot your shot.  Worst case, she says no.  Best case, you get a date.  Unless one of those outcomes is unbearable, why not go for it? 

[Repentant]

45 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Here's the thing, though: some people are natrually sort of flirty - or even outright flirty when they have some drinks in them. It doesn't always mean they want to take it further. 

I would say her not really reacting to what you sent her doesn't really signal a lot of interest, but you did you send her some sort of message along with the song? Or just the song itself? I am wondering if you gave her much to reply to. 

Thank you for your reply! Yeah, that's pretty much what my friend told me, however she did make a point of mentioning that she personally wouldn't flirt with someone in whom she'd have absolutely no interest. That's what set off the "hmm" in my mind. 

To answer your question, I didn't really give her much to work with, no, just the song. Anything subsequent to that would have had to come from scratch. That's why I didn't read too much into it either way, but decided to err on the side of caution (i.e. not being a bother).

Edit: to note, the song wasn't on theme, either, just a song I'd proposed we sing at karaoke:))

Edited 2 hours ago by Repentant

[Repentant]

32 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

Shoot your shot.  Worst case, she says no.  Best case, you get a date.  Unless one of those outcomes is unbearable, why not go for it? 

Thank you! Well, given my luck, worst case is actually being strung along:)) 

I'll give it the week and I'll see how I'll feel about it then. Enough time for things to settle a bit, I'd say. 

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, Repentant said:

I'll give it the week and I'll see how I'll feel about it then.

I wouldn’t wait. Set up a meeting and invite her for drinks as soon as you can.

She let you play with her hair and made flirty comments. I’d make a move right there and then, but I guess doing it the next day is fine too.

In the worst case, she’s say no, and you’ll move on. Not a big deal.

 

1 hour ago, Repentant said:

Well, given my luck, worst case is actually being strung along:)) 

Why would you let her string you along?