Breadcrumbs?

[Sugarspice25]

Hi everyone, 

So met a guy in person at a coffee shop. He asked me to dinner, and I agreed. When the date came it was nice and easy going until he started to kinda rub on my thigh and kept touching my thigh ( I didnt say anything) when we finally kissed it was nice but the second kiss he used his tongue. After I told him he's too physical for a first meeting he said its not like were having sex. 

After the date he texted me a kiss emoji (that was Sunday):on Tuesday he checked in with me how's work but still no plan. Then Thursday he texts wyd I answer and he didnt ask m3 out. Friday same thing wyd. Saturday he texts me 12am saying.."Hey wyd. Im out but not for long lets connect tomorrow. " i left him on read.

Today he texted me Hello, but i didnt answer yet. Why is he breadcrumbing me? What should I reply to him for this to stop. I do kinda like him. Hes 42 no children,  never married but was almost engaged once. Im 28.

 

[Gebidozo]

What kind of a reply “It’s not like we’re having sex” is to a woman’s statement that something feels too physical?

He sounds like he’s trying to “score” as fast as possible. It’s not a good sign if you’re interested in something more substantial.

The way he keeps sending you texts without any concrete plans or suggestions feels to me like he’s sending a lot of similar texts to other women.

[ShyViolet]

Trust your instincts.  You know something feels off about this guy.  He sounds kind of sleazy, like he's only interested in something casual.  I wouldn't waste my time.

[ExpatInItaly]

I am 44, and I can tell you, this is an immature 42-year-old. 

Wyd? Really? This sort of interaction is for teens, not men in their 40s. But even worse was his response to moving too quickly physically: 

8 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said:

After I told him he's too physical for a first meeting he said its not like were having sex.

I would not want to see this man again. He sounds unintelligent and insensitive. 

[flitzanu]

that's not really breadcrumbs.

giving you breadcrumbs would generally be giving you "something" you can hold on to, promises, plans, etc, this is just really poor communication and giving you nothing.

[FredEire]

Yeah this guy seems like a bit of a timewaster and not a great communicator

[basil67]

If you want this to stop, you can either text him with "I don't see this going any further. Hope you find someone nice".  Or block him

[Sanch62]

When someone shows you what they're about, it's up to you to take them or leave them. In this case, the guy is after sex and doesn't care how you feel about that as long as you'll participate. So I don't understand why you haven't just walked away and blocked him.