Breadcrumbs?

[Sugarspice25]

Hi everyone, 

So met a guy in person at a coffee shop. He asked me to dinner, and I agreed. When the date came it was nice and easy going until he started to kinda rub on my thigh and kept touching my thigh ( I didnt say anything) when we finally kissed it was nice but the second kiss he used his tongue. After I told him he's too physical for a first meeting he said its not like were having sex. 

After the date he texted me a kiss emoji (that was Sunday):on Tuesday he checked in with me how's work but still no plan. Then Thursday he texts wyd I answer and he didnt ask m3 out. Friday same thing wyd. Saturday he texts me 12am saying.."Hey wyd. Im out but not for long lets connect tomorrow. " i left him on read.

Today he texted me Hello, but i didnt answer yet. Why is he breadcrumbing me? What should I reply to him for this to stop. I do kinda like him. Hes 42 no children,  never married but was almost engaged once. Im 28.

 

[Gebidozo]

What kind of a reply “It’s not like we’re having sex” is to a woman’s statement that something feels too physical?

He sounds like he’s trying to “score” as fast as possible. It’s not a good sign if you’re interested in something more substantial.

The way he keeps sending you texts without any concrete plans or suggestions feels to me like he’s sending a lot of similar texts to other women.

[ShyViolet]

Trust your instincts.  You know something feels off about this guy.  He sounds kind of sleazy, like he's only interested in something casual.  I wouldn't waste my time.

[ExpatInItaly]

I am 44, and I can tell you, this is an immature 42-year-old. 

Wyd? Really? This sort of interaction is for teens, not men in their 40s. But even worse was his response to moving too quickly physically: 

8 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said:

After I told him he's too physical for a first meeting he said its not like were having sex.

I would not want to see this man again. He sounds unintelligent and insensitive. 

[flitzanu]

that's not really breadcrumbs.

giving you breadcrumbs would generally be giving you "something" you can hold on to, promises, plans, etc, this is just really poor communication and giving you nothing.

[FredEire]

Yeah this guy seems like a bit of a timewaster and not a great communicator

[basil67]

If you want this to stop, you can either text him with "I don't see this going any further. Hope you find someone nice".  Or block him