in gradschool and 34 years old. feel fcking hopeless because I never had a girlfriend and now I'm screwed :(

[cashny3]

I'm at the point where I just feel like ending it. I never figured out what I wanted to do in life, have mental health disorders, and now I'm scrambling to get my life together because of it. After this semester I'll be half way done with this public health program if I can continue and then I would get my masters. I only got into this because it was 42 credits and didn't have any prerequisites. I only have entry level experience and no experience to get a better job. but the salaries don't sound promising.

 

I'm honestly ready to end it all. I'm tired of being single and miserable. My therapist says it shouldn't affect my dating life at all but I no that isn't true. almost every woman on reddit says its a dealbreaker. At this point I'll probably be living here until my parents are dead. I honestly don't wanna be alive anymore either because of this. idk what to do.

[Sony12]

Please call a helpline that is set up for these types of things. This is merely a dating advice site and most of the time our advice doesn't go much further then is this person interested or not interested. You are dealing with struggles more serious then that.

[MarriageRealist]

On 2/6/2026 at 10:18 PM, cashny3 said:

I'm at the point where I just feel like ending it. I never figured out what I wanted to do in life, have mental health disorders, and now I'm scrambling to get my life together because of it. After this semester I'll be half way done with this public health program if I can continue and then I would get my masters. I only got into this because it was 42 credits and didn't have any prerequisites. I only have entry level experience and no experience to get a better job. but the salaries don't sound promising.

 

I'm honestly ready to end it all. I'm tired of being single and miserable. My therapist says it shouldn't affect my dating life at all but I no that isn't true. almost every woman on reddit says its a dealbreaker. At this point I'll probably be living here until my parents are dead. I honestly don't wanna be alive anymore either because of this. idk what to do.

Please reach out for help right now. What you’re feeling is serious, and you deserve support. Call the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988) - they’re available 24/7 and can help you through this moment. You’re dealing with a lot - mental health struggles, career uncertainty, feeling isolated - and these feelings of hopelessness are symptoms of what you’re going through, not the reality of your situation or your future. You’re halfway through a graduate program, which shows incredible strength even when you can’t see it right now. The fact that you’re reaching out, even anonymously online, shows part of you wants help and wants things to get better. Your therapist is right that your mental health struggles shouldn’t define your entire dating life, but more importantly right now, you need support for the immediate crisis you’re in. Please call 988 or go to your nearest emergency room if you’re having thoughts of harming yourself. Your life has value, and there are people who can help you find your way through this dark moment to a place where things feel manageable again.