Is uncertainty worse than the truth in relationships?

[Stacey Barnes]

I’m a 29M and recently came out of a long-term relationship. Something I keep reflecting on is how the hardest part wasn’t even what may or may not have happened — it was the uncertainty.

That constant feeling something might be wrong, but not having clarity… it slowly drains your peace, your focus, even your sense of self.

Some people say trust blindly. Others say walk away. But I wonder — is not knowing actually the hardest part?

For those who’ve been through this, did finding the truth (even if painful) bring peace? Or did uncertainty linger either way?

I’m genuinely curious how others deal with this mentally and emotionally.

[Gebidozo]

Not knowing what? Truth about what?

Unless you provide some details about what happened we can’t say whether trusting or walking away was the best solution in your case.

[Sanch62]

10 hours ago, Stacey Barnes said:

Some people say trust blindly. Others say walk away. But I wonder — is not knowing actually the hardest part?

I've never heard anyone advise that blindness and trust somehow go together for any kind of successful outcome. While I've seen lots of suggestions to walk away, they've each addressed a specific context, which you haven't given. If you'd care to elaborate, maybe we can be of more help in that sense.

In cases where a relationship is not open and intimate enough for honest communication, which can discuss care and concern between partners who view themselves as being on the same side, rather than as suspicious adversaries who lapse into accusatory confrontations, then that alone speaks of an unhealthy dynamic that doesn't serve anyone.

Either a relationship can meet your needs and desires for a shared future, or it cannot. If you find yourself unable to communicate with a partner in ways that help you determine this, then that fact alone tells you your answer, regardless of how trust-worthy a given partner might actually be.

Edited yesterday at 03:26 PM by Sanch62

[ShyViolet]

Why did you have a constant feeling that something was wrong in your relationship?