Am I right to be angry or am I overreacting?

[Simone26]

This is just a basic who is wrong and who is right question.

We have been together for a while, close to 6 years and we’ve always had an adventurous sex life. I had long wanted to have a threesome with us and another man and it was always going to happen, it was just a matter of when.

His best friend whom he never sees, who now lives overseas, was in town for a week on business and I met him for the first time. And yeah it happened. And then again on the last day he was here. It went well, no jealousy, no issues. I love my bf even more for letting me experience that.

That was nearly 9 months ago and he’s about to visit again and I admit I got excited by the thought and asked my bf if we could again. He said he didn’t think we would be able to manage it because his WIFE and KIDS would be with him. I felt so sick. I would never knowingly do that. I cannot believe my bf put me in that situation.

I’ve been asked to keep my mouth shut. How can I meet and greet her and welcome her into our home knowing what we’ve done?

My bf is adamant it is not our issue. If he cheated that is his issue. We don’t need to be involved in it. But it is my issue now, how can I entertain her while the boys go out and golfing for example when I know that she’s being lied to.

I am really angry at my bf but he thinks I’m overreacting, he thinks that we do us and they do them and we don’t need to blur the lines. How do I look this woman in the eyes when she no doubt is going to talk up her husband when I know what her did and worse what he did with me?

And one more thing, they do not have an open relationship, that is something that has been made very clear to me now and why I’ve been muted.

What do you all think? How big of a lie is this?

[Gebidozo]

You aren’t overreacting.

If your boyfriend had known that you wouldn’t participate in an act of cheating before you did the MMF threesome, then I think you’re underreacting.

He made you an unwilling accomplice to a dishonest act. That isn’t something that can be overlooked.

Even if he hadn’t known that you’d have moral reservations, I think it’s very strange and extremely disrespectful that he failed to mention that his friend was married and would be cheating on his wife.