Sexless relationships

[Minniexx]

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, he's 31 and I'm 26. We use to have sex constantly at least once a day at the beginning. But now it's been a year with no sex. I'm very keen but he says he has low libido so I haven't ever approached him sexually cause he just not in the mood. It's starting to really effect me because I consider it a huge part of dating/relationships. I'm starting to not feel sexy or desired anymore and wishing someone would give me sexual attention. Is it normal to just stop having sex in your relationship for this long at our age? 

[Sony12]

1 hour ago, Minniexx said:

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, he's 31 and I'm 26. We use to have sex constantly at least once a day at the beginning. But now it's been a year with no sex. I'm very keen but he says he has low libido so I haven't ever approached him sexually cause he just not in the mood. It's starting to really effect me because I consider it a huge part of dating/relationships. I'm starting to not feel sexy or desired anymore and wishing someone would give me sexual attention. Is it normal to just stop having sex in your relationship for this long at our age? 

It does happen but no it is not normal. It often ranges from reasons of disinterest to health issues they are having. If it is affecting your relationship and you are finding yourself because unhappy with it then it is time to potentially end it. Sex is a very significant part of every relationship in most cases and it is a compatibility issue of the two of you aren't aligned with each other about what you want from your sex lives.

[ShyViolet]

That's not normal at all when you are so young, still in your 20s.  I would really say that it sounds like this relationship has run its course and it's time to move on.

[Gebidozo]

It’s absolutely not normal when it is so radical and happens so soon in the relationship.

If he had a low libido, he wouldn’t be having sex with you daily in the beginning. Libido doesn’t just drop like that in a young man from daily sex to one year without sex. So he is either lying or has some kind of a very serious medical condition that he is hiding from you.

Sex is a huge part of relationship, especially this early on and in such an age. You definitely don’t have to stay in a sexless relationship.

 

 

[FredEire]

31 is not an age where men would usually have low libido for biological reasons, its usually 40s+. That being said it does happen but its usually psychological when youre still relatively young. It could be that he is not into you or it could be that he has personal issues going on, which he should be communicating with you if he values the relationship.

Edited 4 hours ago by FredEire

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, FredEire said:

31 is not an age where men would usually have low libido for biological reasons, its usually 40s+.

*cough* 50 year old dude here. Libido high, very high. Higher than in the 30’s *cough*

Sadly, I think that the OP’s boyfriend isn’t sexually attracted to her anymore, for whatever reason.

[FredEire]

25 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

*cough* 50 year old dude here. Libido high, very high. Higher than in the 30’s *cough*

Sadly, I think that the OP’s boyfriend isn’t sexually attracted to her anymore, for whatever reason.

Haha yeah don't get me wrong guys can keep libido high into their old age my point is just that it sometimes starts hitting guys in their 40s who haven't looked after themselves and are heavy smokers, drinkers, crappy diet etc. Even those guys will probably get away with it in their 20s and 30s.

It probably is either an issue with attraction as you said or hes got some mental stuff going on in terms of intimacy, which is something he should be disclosing and going through if thats the case.

[Sony12]

1 hour ago, Gebidozo said:

*cough* 50 year old dude here. Libido high, very high. Higher than in the 30’s *cough*

Sadly, I think that the OP’s boyfriend isn’t sexually attracted to her anymore, for whatever reason.

Lol have to remember @FredEire is pretty young himself and mostly dates people around his own age so take what he says about the sex lives of people older then him with a grain of salt.

In my experience in dating women older then me through much of my adult life many women start complaining about the health issues in men when they are in their 60's plus. Women in their 60's who still want a healthy sex life will usually become interested in younger men not so much because they are wanting casual sex from them but because they still want to have an active lifestyle and many men their own age can no longer keep up with them.

Most of the time when women in their 50's and younger date younger men (meaning men who are probably 10 plus years younger) they are usually either looking for a one night stand or are just interested in casual sex with a hot guy that doesn't involve a relationship.

Edited 1 hour ago by Sony12