Fight

[greg1992]

My gf stayed the weekend. She had a lot of things she brought. She said she has a lot to pack. I started helping her pack. I was just trying to help but she said I was creating more work for her and got really mad. She threw something on the floor that I packed. I asked her why she was mad and she didn't answer. 

She brought her cats to my house. While trying to catch them to bring them home one was under the table. She kind of pushes me out of the way to go to the table. A little shove even though their was room to go around me or she could have said excuse me. The cat was still and wasn't moving. So it's not like it was running away. I got mad at that and yelled you can say excuse me. She doesn't say anything. I say you know when you get made you are really rude and are acting ridiculous. She yelled back and said I'm going home. I said can you stay so we can talk about this and she said no. I said love you as she was leaving. Took her a second but she did say it back. 

I apologized for saying what I said and apologized for causing her more work but I did say I was just trying to help and did say I felt disrespected but her shoving me and that I didn't deserve that 

[Lotsgoingon]

So what have you learned about her? That's what seems like the reasonable next step.

Assuming you're telling the full story, this woman is extremely moody and acted unpredictably. What happened before all of this? What happened over the weekend?

[FredEire]

Sound she is acting moody and even invading your space and pushing you and you end up apologising for it?

You aren't putting boundaries, I'm guessing this is why she feels entitled to act this way in the first place. We let people trample our boundaries in order to calm them down and make them stop arguing but in the end it only gives them a justification for their bs behaviour and it comes back around twice as strongly.

Nevertheless I dont think someone who is overstepping your boundaries this much is usually a healthy partner. If she can recognise she is being over the top and takes some responsibility for her part in it maybe you can make it work but otherwise I dont think its going in a good direction. You need to put your foot down.