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Hmmmm. Is the OP just going to disappear now? Interesting.

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On 1/15/2026 at 11:03 AM, juzme said:

What's weird is when we first were talking about meeting. They asked for my make and model of my car. 

That's such a bizarre question to ask, and should have been your queue to exit stage left and not get dragged into whatever her situation, agenda, or chaos was about to pull you into.

Because that’s really what was happening. When someone you’ve known for 48 hours is: trauma‑dumping, sexualizing the conversation without invitation, talking about moving in, asking for your car details, describing financial collapse and then suddenly disappearing it's you being positioned as a potential solution to her problems, not a partner.

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47 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

That's such a bizarre question to ask, and should have been your queue to exit stage left and not get dragged into whatever her situation, agenda, or chaos was about to pull you into.

Because that’s really what was happening. When someone you’ve known for 48 hours is: trauma‑dumping, sexualizing the conversation without invitation, talking about moving in, asking for your car details, describing financial collapse and then suddenly disappearing it's you being positioned as a potential solution to her problems, not a partner.

Yeah. I suspect the sexy comments were what dragged OP in, but it seems like she was over-sexing herself because she probably felt she had nothing else to offer.

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10 hours ago, juzme said:

I did share her photo and address, and phone number with dating scammer websites. And will post her on a popular complaint site for all to know to avoid her address. And that way I did my part to protect others from falling victim to a crazy lady 

That’s pretty messed up, man.

You didn’t “fall victim” to her. She didn’t scam you, in fact she didn’t commit any crime against you at all. Yes, she acted like a psycho, so stop dating her and block her.

You can’t just share her information like that and engage in some sort of a moral crusade against her simply because you had an unhinged dating experience.

I think you should stay off online dating for now. Maybe find a good therapist to help you figure out why you were able to go from believing she loved you to wanting revenge against her.

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26 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

That’s pretty messed up, man.

You didn’t “fall victim” to her. She didn’t scam you, in fact she didn’t commit any crime against you at all. Yes, she acted like a psycho, so stop dating her and block her.

You can’t just share her information like that and engage in some sort of a moral crusade against her simply because you had an unhinged dating experience.

I think you should stay off online dating for now. Maybe find a good therapist to help you figure out why you were able to go from believing she loved you to wanting revenge against her.

It's almost like he was the one who was overly attached.

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9 hours ago, juzme said:

I did the right thing. She's already in her own hot water with the people she lives with. Oh well. At least other guys will be warned

No, you most definitely did not. 

You made a careless, reckless move and you should know a lot better at your age. 

Most other guys won't need to be warned because they'd have recognized the red flags before even meeting her. It's nobody's problem but yours that you didn't.  It is not up to you to share her location and phone number with antyone else. I would advise you don't participate in online dating because you don't seem prepared for it or able to manage it like an adult. 

Edited by ExpatInItaly
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At first I thought he may have just reported her profile on Tinder. But it actually sounds like he went to a completely different site and publicly released personal info about her. And who knows who would come across that info.

The OP definitely has no business talking to people over social media if he is going to be doing stuff like that.

Edited by Sony12

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